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2020.09.22 11:40 MFRobots Meeting women over 40 that still want kids?

I had this situation happen a few times. Although, I'd prefer a woman that don't have kids, as I don't either. When I do find a 40-something woman that's single, never married, no kids. It's pretty ideal, as I'm the same...but I had to call things off as they are still yearning for kids...if they've never had any.
I was talking to a woman in her 50s, single , now with her man...that said when she was dating, that she'd often meet 50-something men with rug-rats. lol. While her kids were grown, married and out of the house. IT was a challenge for her until she met her guy that also had adult kids.
Just another hurdle in dating I suppose. Heck, I've met younger women that don't want kids, which is a plus. lol
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2020.09.22 07:03 CommunistJotaro Peregrine: Character Backstory #3

Peregrine: Character Backstory #3

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Name: Peregrine
Species: Skywing
Age: 29
Gender: Male
Occupation: Former Soldier, mainly wanders in what used to be battlefields
Personality: Stone Faced, Quiet, and appears to avoid all contact with dragons when approached
Powers:
  1. Under Guard: Peregrine appears to be under the guard of a mysterious being called the Seraphim, the true name of the being is unknown as this what Peregrine refers to it as, it will only manifest whenever Peregrine is brought to the brink of death, it stands at 35 feet tall and is 63 feet long, it resembles an unknown species of bird, has 6 sets of wings, and emits a strong glow. Anybody with the intention to bring harm to Peregrine will be incapacitated usually by breakage of the wing or arm bones, the damage is not permanent. Do note that Peregrine can die from blood loss or from his injuries, it will demanifest once Peregrine gets help or is no longer on the brink of death.
  2. Poppy Trail: A ability he obtained only when the Sandwing Succession War ended quite possibility from the Seraphim, whenever Peregrine touches an area that used to be a Battlefield that Skywings fought in poppies will bloom at his talons and then spread in an area until it covers the entire former battlefield, they wilt when Peregrine leaves.
Original Universe: WoF-MU (Wings of Fire Main Universe)
Theme Song: Let's Go
Backstory: Born in the year 4,990 he was born 7 years before the Sandwing Succession War, life before the war was rough being born into a poor family. He was the oldest out of 5 siblings and would be the first to begin his school career starting at the age of 5 years old, he became deeply focused in his studies hoping to land good grades to get a good job. He would become the apprentice of a Blacksmith at the age of 6 to help support his family in taxes and as well to help cover the schooling for his younger siblings giving them a massive head start over Peregrine.
When the Sandwing Succession War began, Peregrine would be the only one out of his sibling to enlist into the Army, becoming apart of an Infantry Battalion meant to disrupt enemy formation by diving down and picking off those not properly in formation. Since diving was the main component of disruption the armor given to them was usually heavy and covered in spikes making them the equivalent of a battering ram. He would meet Swift a female Skywing who became enamored with him, they were a part of the same battalion and were the fastest flyers in it, Swift was faster flying horizontally while Peregrine was faster diving down. Although Swift showed clear signs that she loved Peregrine sticking close to him during battles and after them he would never return his feelings to her, telling her ending the war as soon as possible was more important. None of the previous battles evoked the protection of the Seraphim, as Peregrine had never reached the brink of death, only during a devastating battle that would cost the lives of his entire battalion would it finally appear protecting a severely injured Peregrine from a killing blow. Peregrine was found by his fellow soldiers during the aftermath of the battle, surrounded in a ring of poppies with the Seraphim standing over him. It demanifested when it sensed that the soldiers were coming to his aid, when questioned about it Peregrine didn't know what to say. He would spend the next 6 months healing from his injuries, he would be frequently questioned about the being, and he was suspected to have been an animus but this was quickly proven false when the tests came back negative. The final blow would come when he heard the news that his family was killed when his hometown erupted into a battlefield being attacked by the Seawings. Peregrine was given the offer to be retired and work as a Palace Guard but he refused wishing to stay on the battlefield as it would be the only place he could call home, he was quickly placed into another battalion that consisted of 50 soldiers, Peregrine lived through a cycle of Recovering and Nearly Dying for the rest of the war, he would finally go missing during the last battles of the Sandwing Succession War.
There are now mysterious sightings of a wandering Skywing Soldier appearing at what used to be battlefields where Skywings once fought, poppies appear to bloom at the Soldier's talons whenever he touches a battlefield, and approaching him will make him fly away in a flash despite his heavy looking armor.
Appearance: Peregrine's facial features are unknown as the armor hides it except for his lower jaw, the armor he has appear to be a couple of a inches thick and made of a heavy metal. His main scale color is light grey, his head & neck scales are slate, his under scales are yellow, and the scales that border it are a golden yellow. His eyes are a golden yellow as well along with having no pupil and appears to be cracked, his horns are a dark brown along with having 5 golden sphere rotating around them. Scars cover his head and neck and the armor he is wearing is in bad shape having some piece cut off, scratched, and cleaved.
Description: Peregrine is a stone faced male Skywing, he stands at 25 feet tall and is 40 feet long. His sacrifices that he led in his past gave him the protection of the Seraphim, a divine being that only manifests when Peregrine is at the brink of death. The orbs that rotate around his horns indicate how many times Peregrine was at the brink of death, they grow bigger over time. Peregrine mainly spends his time wandering around what used to be battlefields that Skywings fought in, he visits his hometown every 5 years, his arrival is usually marked by the poppies that bloom at his talons, he only stays one day at each battlefield. If he is approached by other dragons he will immediately take off at a blinding speed despite the heavy armor, saying the name Swift around him makes him show deep regret and stop what he is doing.
(Bonus Stuff, skip if you would like)
Name: Seraphim (name Peregrine gave)
Species: N/A
Age: N/A
Gender: Assumed Female
Occupation: Goddess of Reincarnation and Light, Guardian
Powers Shown:
  1. Godly Strength: Has been shown to be capable of easily incapacitating any dragon that attempts to harm Peregrine in a single strike, although it only has a set range of 10 meters.
  2. Godly Resistance: No Dragon/Scavenger weaponry is capable of piercing the Seraphim's skin, ranged weaponry has already been used against it, causing the object to dissipate into light.
Original Universe: WoF-MU(Wings of Fire Main Universe)
Description: One of three beings that created the planet on which the dragons live on, it is the supreme god of the trio. The being who is guarding Peregrine is just an avatar of the Seraphim in the form of the phoenix, while the true form is the collection of all of the stars in the Universe. It is currently allied with the Exowings blessing them with the power to purify the Eldritchwings so that they are able to reincarnate. It is a non corporeal being, it communicates with its allies by using the stars, each time a star pulses is an indication that the Seraphim is near by, the only way to damage it is by turning regular stars into strange stars via infection by strange matter.
Original Universe: WoF-AU1 (Wings of Fire Alternate Universe 1)
Species: Skywing
Age: 29
Gender: Male
Occupation: Former Soldier, Palace Guard
Personality: Joyful, Optimistic
Powers: None
Relationships:
  1. Swift-AU1 (Wife)
  2. Gyrfalcon-AU1 (Son)
  3. Arenaria-AU1 (Daughter)
Description: Peregrine-AU1 is the opposite to Peregrine-MU, accepting Swift's love for him instead of waiting after the war, because of this acceptance it seems to have changed the tragic events that happened to Peregrine-MU. They began dating during the war, and when once it had ended they got married, they are both palace guards having retired from the army. Their home is located in a remote mountaintop, their son Gyrfalcon is 4 years old while their daughter Arenaria is 1 years old.
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I'm a 25F in NYC and I have oral and genital HSV1. Here are some great things about my Herpes experience so far:
I'm sure there's more I can't think of right now, but the beauty of this sub is that there's so many posts like these. I hope you'll feel even a little more fine with your new situation. I promise you'll get to where my head is at soon enough.
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2020.09.22 02:51 chessman6500 The social system in our world is simply unfair.

Society socially is on a steep decline. The COVID pandemic has caused the world to seemingly "disintegrate" (for a lack of a better term). Dating apps unfortunately have made dating near impossible, especially for guys. Nobody wants to hear this, but average guys DO have trouble with dating to high degrees nowadays. Its not talked about much, but it does exist. I think, to me, being single is so much better, and so much more rewarding. First of all, the majority of relationships end on a negative note. Very few marriages actually are meaningful. Many people may not want to hear this, but its true. The divorce rate has been at 50% for many decades. It only recently went down, and the reason for this is because of the fact marriage rates themselves have declined. If they had stayed at the same rate they were say forty some odd years ago, then I wouldn't be at all surprised if they had actually risen over time.
Having close friends, while it is not guaranteed to last, are actually better. You are not tied down to these people. Being tied down to someone, generally, does not work out. Most people just don't have chemistry with one another.
I will end here. Think about this for a while.
How do you feel about what I just said? Do you think that being married is a good idea, or a bad idea? Do you think people should just enjoy being single, and is it truly a blessing in disguise?
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2020.09.21 23:13 Arizona-Cardinals NOTES FROM THE CARDINALS 30-15 VICTORY VS. WASHINGTON (9/20/20)

• The Cardinals defeated Washington 30-15 in Arizona’s 2020 home opener at State Farm Stadium on Sunday. The Cardinals have now started a season 2-0 for the first time since 2015 and just the sixth time in the last 30 seasons (2020, 2015, 2014, 2012, 2008, 1991).
• With the victory on Sunday, Arizona improved to 10-5 in home-openers at State Farm Stadium.
• After going 2-11-1 in the month of September over the previous four seasons (2016-19), the Cardinals have now kicked off the first month of the 2020 season with a 2-0 record.
• Through two weeks, Arizona sits atop the winningest division in the NFL. The NFC West has compiled a 7-1 record so far in 2020. No other division has more than five wins. The NFC West is just the second division since the division realignment in 2002 to have a least seven wins through the first two weeks of a season (AFC West in 2002).
• The NFC West is also the only division in which each team has a positive point differential.

2020 NFC West Standings

Team W L PF PA Hm Road Div Conf
Arizona 2 0 54 35 1-0 1-0 1-0 2-0
L.A. Rams 2 0 57 36 1-0 1-0 0-0 2-0
Seattle 2 0 73 55 1-0 1-0 0-0 1-0
San Francisco 1 1 51 37 0-1 1-0 0-1 0-1

TWO GAMES AND TWO BIG PERFORMANCES BY ARIZONA OFFENSE

• After posting 404 total yards in the victory over San Francisco in Week 1, the Cardinals upped that total in Week 2 and finished Sunday’s game vs. Washington with 438 total yards (160 rushing; 278 passing). It marks the sixth time Arizona reached 400+ total yards in 18 games under head coach *Kliff Kingsbury. Arizona reached 400+ yards just once over the two seasons combined (2017-18) prior to Kingsbury’s arrival.* • ***The 2020 season marks just the second time in franchise history (1976) that the Cardinals have posted 400+ net yards and 20+ first downs in each of the first two games of a season.* • Only five times in franchise history have the Cardinals had more net yards in the first two games of a season than they have in 2020. Arizona’s 842 yards are the most through two games since the team had 903 yards in 1984.

Franchise History – Most Yards Thru 2 Games

Rnk Year Yds
1 1984 903
2 1976 876
3 1947 867
4 1958 861
5 1965 846
6t 2020 842
6t 1959 842
The Cardinals have 340 rushing yards and 502 net passing yards in 2020. It’s just the second time in franchise history Arizona has had 300+ rushing yards and 500+ passing yards through two games. In 1984, the Cardinals had 378 rushing yards and 525 passing yards through two games.
Through two games, the Arizona offense ranks:

NFL Offensive Rankings in 2020

Statistic NFL Rnk
Total Plays (151) 2nd
Big Play Runs (12) t-2nd
Rushing 1st Downs (21) 3rd
Rushing TDs (4) t-3rd
Rushing Yards/Game (170.0) 5th
Total Net Yards/Game (421.0) 6th
Time of Possession Avg (32:36) 6th
Scoring Drives (10) t-6th
Big Plays (17) 7th
1st Downs (46) t-8th
Total TDs (6) t-11th
Points/Game (27.0) t-12th
Passing Yards/Game (251.0) 13th
• Of the Cardinals six scoring drives in Sunday’s win, four consisted of at least 10 plays and three covered at least 70 yards. Through two games, Arizona has five scoring drives of 10+ plays (14, 12, 1, 10, 10) and five scoring drives of 70+ yards (94, 75, 75, 75, 74).
• In the victory over Washington on Sunday, Arizona had four different players post 50+ receiving yards – DeAndre Hopkins (68), Andy Isabella (67), Christian Kirk (57) and Larry Fitzgerald (50) – and two different players rush for 60+ yards – Kenyan Drake (86) and Kyler Murray (67).

ARIZONA KEEPS THINGS ROLLING ON 4TH DOWN

• Arizona had its first two 4th down attempts of the season vs. Washington on Sunday and converted both. Under Kingsbury, the Cardinals are now 15-of-22 on 4th conversion attempts. Their 68.2 conversion percentage ranks second in NFL dating back to last season.

NFL Leaders - 4th Down Conversion % (2019-20)

Rnk Team Pct. Att Conv
1 Baltimore 73.1 26 19
2 Arizona 68.2 22 15
3 Kansas City 66.7 12 8
4 Cincinnati 58.1 31 18
5 Denver 57.9 19 11

CARDS KEEP PILING UP YARDS IN THE RUN GAME

• After posting 180 rushing yards and two TDs on 36 attempts (5.0 avg.) in Week 1 at San Francisco, the Cardinals rushed for 160 yards and two TDs on 32 attempts (5.0 avg.) on Sunday vs. Washington. It marks the first time since 1979 the Cardinals rushed for 160+ yards in each of the first two games of a season. • Sunday’s contest marked the seventh time the Cardinals have rushed for 150+ yards in 18 games under Kingsbury. Arizona had seven such games in the three seasons (2016-18) prior to his arrival.
• Through the first two weeks of 2020, Arizona’s 340 rushing yards rank fifth in the NFL.

NFL Leaders – Team Rushing Yards (2020)

Rnk Team Yds Att Avg
1 Green Bay 417 67 6.2
2 Cleveland 353 62 5.7
3 L.A. Rams 344 79 4.4
4 Baltimore 341 67 5.1
5 Arizona 340 68 5.0
• In 18 games under Kingsbury, the Cardinals have rushed for 2,330 yards and 22 TDs on 464 carries (5.02 avg.). That is an average of 129.4 yards per game.
• With the victory over Washington on Sunday, Arizona improved to 6-1 in games it has rushed for 150+ yards under Kingsbury.

DEFENSE GETS IT DONE AGAIN, HOLDING WASHINGTON TO 15 POINTS

• On the birthday of defensive coordinator Vance Joseph, Arizona’s defense held Washington scoreless in the first half and allowed just 15 points in the win on Sunday. Dating back to last season, it marks the third time in the last four games Arizona has held an opponent to 20 points or fewer.
• The Cardinals held Washington to four conversions on 12 third down attempts (33%) yesterday. Through two games, Arizona’s opponents have converted just six of 23 attempts on third down. That 26.1% conversion rate leads the NFL.

NFL Leaders – Opponent 3rd Down Conv. Pct. (2020)

Rnk Team Pct Att Conv
1 Arizona 26.1 23 6
2 Baltimore 28.6 21 6
3 Chicago 31.0 29 9
4 Denver 32.1 28 9
5 Detroit 34.8 23 8
• Dating back to the final four games of last season, Arizona’s defense under Joseph ranks:

NFL Defensive Ranks (Since Week 14 of 2019)

Statistic Rnk
Rushing TDs Allowed (3) t-3rd
Passing Yards/Game (210.3) 4th
Sacks (17) t-5th
Net Yards Allowed/Game (333.0) 8th
Points Allowed/Game (21.0) t-8th
Yards/Play Allowed (5.26) 9th
TDs allowed (13) t-10th
Completion % Allowed (63.3) t-12th
• Four different Cardinals defenders recorded their first sack of the season in the victory over Washington: Corey Peters, Devon Kennard, Jordan Phillips and Haason Reddick. Through two games, seven different Arizona defenders have a sack.
• The first three players signed by the Cardinals in free agency this offseason were LBs Devon Kennard and De’Vondre Campbell and DL Jordan Phillips. Through the first two games this season, the trio has combined for 19 tackles, 3 TFL, 2.0 sacks, 2 QB hits, 2 passes defensed and a forced fumble.

HOPKINS AT 22 RECEPTIONS THROUGH TWO GAMES / CATCHES 1ST TD WITH CARDINALS

• After catching a career-high 14 passes in his Cardinals debut at San Francisco in Week 1, WR DeAndre Hopkins followed up with eight catches for 68 yards and a TD in Sunday’s win over Washington. With 22 catches in two games, Hopkins established an NFL record for most receptions in a player’s first two games with a team. The previous record of 19 was set by Earl Cooper (San Francisco) in 1980 and matched by Eric Metcalf (Atlanta) in 1995.

NFL Record – Receptions in 1st 2 Games with a Team

Rnk Player (Team) Rec Year
1 DeAndre Hopkins (AZ) 22 2020
2t Eric Metcalf (Atl) 19 1995
2t Earl Cooper (SF) 19 1980
4t Anquan Boldin (AZ) 18 2003
4t Jamison Crowder (NYJ) 18 2019
Hopkins’ 22 catches are the most for any player in franchise history through the first two games of a season. Anquan Boldin (18 in 2003) held the previous mark.

Franchise Record – Receptions in 1st 2 Games of Season

Rnk Player (Year) Rec
1 DeAndre Hopkins (2020) 22
2 Anquan Boldin (2003) 18
3t Larry Fitzgerald (2005) 17
3t J.T. Smith (1989) 17
3t Don Stonesifer (1953) 17
Hopkins’ 22 receptions lead the NFL through the first two weeks of 2020.

NFL Leaders – Receptions (2020)

Rnk Player (Team) Rec
1 WR DeAndre Hopkins (AZ) 22
2 WR Davante Adams (GB) 17
3t WR Calvin Ridley (Atl) 16
3t WR Amari Cooper (Dal) 16
3t WR Stefon Diggs (Buf) 16
• Hopkins now has five-or-more receptions in 20 consecutive games played. In NFL history, only Antonio Brown (36 straight) had a longer streak of games with five-or-more catches.

NFL History – Consecutive Games with 5+ Receptions (All-Time)

Rnk Player (Team) Gms Years
1 Antonio Brown (Pit) 36 2013-15
2t DeAndre Hopkins (Hou/AZ) 20* 2018-20
2t Michael Thomas (NO) 20 2018-19
2t Jarvis Landry (Mia/Cle) 20 2017-18
5 Laveranues Coles (NYJ/Was) 19 2002-03
*Active Streak • Hopkins first catch on Sunday gave him at least one reception in 112 consecutive games. He now has a reception in every game played in his career. Hopkins’ streak of 112 consecutive games with a reception is the fourth-longest active streak in the NFL.

NFL Leaders - Consecutive Games with a Reception (Active Streak)

Rnk Player (Team) Gms Date Streak Started
1 Larry Fitzgerald (AZ) 245 Nov. 7, 2004
2 Julio Jones (Atl) 120 Dec. 4, 2011
3 Golden Tate (NYG) 117 Oct. 28, 2012
4 DeAndre Hopkins (AZ) 112 Sept. 9, 2013
5 Jarvis Landry (Cle) 97 Sept. 7, 2014
• Hopkins hauled in his first TD catch of the season on a four-yard reception from Kyler Murray in the first quarter. It was his 55th career TD reception, the most among active NFL players dating back to his rookie season in 2013.

Active NFL Leaders – Receiving Touchdowns (2013-)

Rnk Player (Current Team) TD
1 DeAndre Hopkins (AZ) 55
2t Jimmy Graham (Chi) 50
2t Mike Evans (TB) 50
4 Odell Beckham (Cle) 49
5 Davante Adams (GB) 46
• With his TD reception from Kyler Murray, Hopkins has now caught at least one TD pass from 11 different QBs in his NFL career.

By Quarterback (11)

TDs Quarterback
25 Deshaun Watson
7 T.J. Yates
6 Ryan Fitzpatrick
5 Brian Hoyer
4 Brock Osweiler
2 Ryan Mallett
2 Tom Savage
1 Kyler Murray
1 Case Keenum
1 Matt Schaub
1 Brandon Weeden

MURRAY OFF TO A RECORD-SETTING START IN 2020

• In Week 1 at San Francisco, QB Kyler Murray threw for 230 yards and a TD and also rushed for 91 yards and a TD in leading the Cardinals to a win. He was even better on Sunday vs. Washington, throwing for 286 yards and a TD while rushing for 67 yards and two TDs on just eight carries. He is the first Cardinals QB with a passing and rushing TD in consecutive games since Jim Hart accomplished the feat in 1969. • Through two games, Murray has thrown for 516 yards and two TDs while rushing for 158 yards and three TDs. He is the first QB in the Super Bowl era to pass for 500+ yards and rush for 150+ yards through the first two games of a season. • Murray had TD runs of 14 and 21 yards against Washington on Sunday. He became the first Cardinals QB with multiple rushing TDs of 14+ yards in a game since Hall of Famer Charley Trippi (18 and 26 yards) against the Chicago Bears on 12/16/51 at Wrigley Field.Murray is the first QB in NFL history to rush for 150+ yards and 3+ TDs in the first two games of a season. He is also the first Cardinals player in franchise history – regardless of position – to rush for 150+ yards and 3+ TDs in the first two games of a season. • Despite having played in just 18 career games, Murray already owns five of the top-nine single-game rushing performances by a QB in franchise history.

Rushing Yards By Quarterback – Single Game (All-Time)

Rnk Player Yds Opponent
1 Charley Trippi 145 12/16/51 @ Chicago
3 M.C. Reynolds* 99 11/2/58 vs. Philadelphia
3 Kyler Murray* 93 10/6/19 @ Cincinnati
4 Kyler Murray 91 9/13/20 @ San Francisco
5 Charley Trippi 86 10/5/52 vs. Chicago
6 Charley Trippi 81 11/18/51 @ San Francisco
7 Kyler Murray* 69 9/22/19 vs. Carolina
8t Kyler Murray 67 9/20/20 vs. Washington
8t Kyler Murray* 67 11/17/19 @ San Francisco
*Rookie Season
• Murray’s 21-yard TD run in the fourth quarter vs. Washington was his third career TD run of 20+ yards (22-yarder at San Francisco in Week 1 of 2012; 22-yarder at San Francisco in Week 11 of 2019). Murray is the only QB with at least three TD runs of 20+ yards dating back to last season.

NFL Leaders – QB TD Runs of 20+ Yards (2019-20)

Rnk Player (Team) TD
1 Kyler Murray (AZ) 3
2 Lamar Jackson (Bal) 2
3t Joe Burrow (Cin) 1
3t Taysom Hill (NO) 1
3t Ryan Tannehill (Ten) 1
3t Mitchell Trubisky (Chi) 1
3t Deshaun Watson (Hou) 1
Over the last 61 seasons (1960-2020), there have been six total TD runs of 20+ yards by a Cardinals QB. Murray has three of those TD runs in his last eight games.

TD Runs of 20+ Yards by Cardinals QB (1960-2020)

Player Opponent Distance
Kyler Murray 9/20/20 vs. Washington 21
Kyler Murray 9/13/20 @ San Francisco 22
Kyler Murray 11/17/19 @ San Francisco 22
Jake Plummer 10/27/02 @ San Francisco 34
Neil Lomax 12/6/81 vs. New Orleans 22
Jim Hart 9/24/67 @ Pittsburgh 23

LARRY FITZGERALD PLAYS IN 252ND CAREER GAME AND 111TH AT STATE FARM STADIUM

• WR Larry Fitzgerald caught seven passes for 50 yards against Washington on Sunday while playing in his 252nd career game. In NFL history, only 10 players have appeared in more games with a single team.

NFL Leaders - Games w/ Single Team (All-Time)

Rnk Player (Team) Games
1 K Jason Hanson (Det) 327
2 OL Bruce Matthews (Hou/Ten) 296
3 CB Darrell Green (Was) 295
4 QB Tom Brady (NE)* 285
5 DE Jim Marshall (Min) 270
6 K Sebastian Janikowski (Oak) 268
7 OL Jackie Slater (LAR) 259
8 OL David Binn (SD) 256
9 QB Brett Favre (GB) 255
10 TE Jason Witten (Dal)* 255
11 WR Larry Fitzgerald (AZ)* 252
*Active Player
• The win over Washington also represented Fitzgerald’s 86th consecutive start in a streak that dates back to 2014. That is the longest starting streak among active wide receivers and the sixth-longest active starting streak among offensive players in the NFL.

NFL Leaders – Consecutive Starts by Offensive Players (Active)

Rnk Player (Team) Starts
1 QB Philip Rivers (Ind) 226
2t T Mitchell Schwartz (KC) 130
2t QB Russell Wilson (Sea) 130
4 T Jake Matthews (Atl) 96
5 C Jason Kelce (Phi) 92
6 WR Larry Fitzgerald (AZ) 86
7 TE Kyle Rudolph (Min) 83
8t C Alex Mack (Atl) 82
8t T Morgan Moses (Was) 82
10 T Alejandro Villanueva (Pit) 75
• Yesterday’s home-opener was Fitzgerald’s 111th career game at State Farm Stadium. He has now appeared in 111 of 113 regular season games played at the venue since it opened in 2006. Fitzgerald has also now played in all 15 home openers at State Farm Stadium. • Fitzgerald has at least one catch in 245 consecutive games, the second-longest streak in NFL history behind only Jerry Rice (274 straight). Fitzgerald’s streak of 245 consecutive games with a catch is the longest in NFL history with a single team. He has at least one reception in 251 of 252 career games.

NFL Record - Consecutive Games with a Reception

Rnk Player (Years) Games Streak Dates Duration
1 Jerry Rice (1985-2004) 274 12/9/85 – 9/12/04 18 years, 8 months, 15 days
2 Larry Fitzgerald (2004-) 245 11/7/04 – 9/20/20 15 years, 10 months, 14 days
3 Tony Gonzalez (2000-2013) 211 12/4/00 – 12/29/13 13 years, 26 days
4 Marvin Harrison (1996-2008) 190 9/1/96 – 12/28/08 12 years, 3 months, 28 days
5 Hines Ward (1998-2010) 186 11/9/98 – 11/8/10 12 years
• Among active streaks, Fitzgerald’s run of 245 consecutive games with a reception is more than twice as long as the second-place player: Julio Jones (120 games).

CAMPBELL’S RARE OUTING IN SECOND GAME WITH ARIZONA

• Signed as a free agent in the offseason, LB De’Vondre Campbell had a very productive outing against Washington on Sunday, finishing with 10 tackles, two tackles for loss and two passes defensed. In doing so, he joined Budda Baker (10/31/19 vs. San Francisco) and Adrian Wilson (9/30/12 vs. Miami) as the only Cardinals defenders in the last nine seasons (2012-20) to record 10+ tackles, 2+ tackles for loss and 2+ passes defensed in a game.
• Yesterday’s game marked Campbell’s seventh career outing with 10+ tackles, five of which have come in his last 15 games dating back to last season.

OTHER WEEK 2 NOTES

• LS Aaron Brewer – now in his ninth NFL season and playing in his 119th career game on Sunday – recovered the first fumble of his career in the first quarter. Covering a punt return, Brewer jumped on a ball forced loose by TE Darrell Daniels at the WAS 40-yard line. Six plays later QB Kyler Murray scored on a 14-yard TD run to give Arizona a 14-0 lead.
• Second-year WR Andy Isabella hauled in a 54-yard reception in the second quarter to help set up a Cardinals FG that gave Arizona a 17-0 lead. Of his 11 career receptions, three have covered at least 50 yards (54. 55 and 88).
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2020.09.21 20:29 anonpsychogirl Am I the Psycho One Here??

Dear Reddit – I am sure I will get skewered but I am struggling to figure out what has happened to me over the past few years.
Three and a half years ago I got an email from an old love "Jim" that was going through a divorce with his wife. I’d like to explain – that I was very careful and standoffish in the beginning not wanting to effect the course of the marriage in any manner. I actually asked and encouraged him several times – to go to his wife and ask her if they could work things out. He did twice and he told me that she said there was no way to save the marriage. Shortly thereafter – I fell in love – hard. His wife had kicked him out of the house and he moved in with me and my two kids that I share half time with my ex-husband. I was a little worried that things were moving so quickly - but Jim assured me that his feelings were real, that he loved me like no other and that he had thought about me for the last 20 years.
I was extremely happy – thought I had finally found the love of my life – he was hilarious, intelligent, kind to me, generous and successful. The first year and a half was perfect. I should have known – it was too good. I was madly in love and we spent all of our time together. I knew the relationship was not entirely healthy – he was an alcoholic and a gambling addict and his mood could sometimes be very dark. He also had an almost non-existent relationship with his family. I tried to bridge the distance between him and his mother as well as the rest of his family members and I became close to them and we spent Thanksgiving and Christmas together for the past few years. My two kids also became very close to his two kids.
The first major red flag that occurred was a little over a year in. The daughter of a friend of mine came to stay with me (and Jim) while she found an apartment in the city I lived in. Jennifer was 27 years old and very attractive. I recall one Saturday afternoon – she wanted to go to the thrift store – I wasn’t in the mood and Jim eagerly volunteered to take her. I felt weird about his eagerness to spend time alone with Jennifer and maybe sulked about it for a couple hours but got over it pretty quickly. A few weeks later – we met Jennifer for dinner. She was wearing a very very very low cut shirt and I recall Jim being almost giddy at the dinner table. Jim often commented on how “hot” young girls were but I am not the jealous type – and often thought he was just being over the top to be funny. Later that evening we ended up going to a strip club – Jim starting flirting with the waitress and when Jennifer wanted to leave – he begged her to stay – I ended up getting upset and went home angry. Jim stayed out. I called him several times and he finally called back to say that he was staying the night at his nieces house. It didn’t sound right – I went to his old phone that was laying in a drawer and found his location. He was at Jennifer’s apartment. I immediately drove over and knocked on the door. He was sleeping on the couch and ended up going home with me. He apologized explaining that he just needed somewhere to stay because they had drank too much. I felt as if he wasn’t telling me the truth. I called Jennifer two days later and she told me that he had also tried to kiss her and was “very persistent” but that she declined and that nothing had happened. I was devastated. I confronted Jim and he apologized and said it would never happen again. However – his apology seemed hollow and he got angry at me when I wasn’t getting over it fast enough.
After the Jennifer incident – things seemed to go back to normal. We spent most of our time doing the things he enjoyed i.e. drinking, gambling, strip clubs, cartoons etc. I didn’t mind because we had fun – lotsa fun – at the end of the night we would dance and sing to songs he would play for me and he would whisper sweet things in my ear… like how he wanted to marry me in Hawaii and how he wanted to take care of me, buy a house with me, etc. His younger son lived a couple hours away and he would spend a week with me and then a week up at his house near his young son. We talked about buying the house we were renting and fixing it up – or buying a house somewhere else. We spent holidays together and our kids got along great. I was happy.
But – something always seemed to be a bit off – I didn’t fully trust him. I began noticing that he would be on his phone a lot – texting. So – while I never felt the need to look at my ex partner’s phones and I’m not proud of this -- I ended up snooping on his phone. I found part of a conversation that he was having with his friend “Mandy” and another woman – where he talked about wanting to cum on someone’s face. I confronted him – he said he was joking and that if I ever looked at his phone again – he would dump me because to him – this was a major violation of trust. Unfortunately - because I was so in love – I believed him. I found it strange that he didn’t see my point of view at all i.e. that his past actions had made me feel insecure in the relationship and that I felt that he needed to earn my trust back. Jim said I was ridiculous for feeling insecure and snooping. I was also taken aback by the intensity of his anger surrounding the fact that i had looked at his phone.
Time went on and things were mostly good unless I showed any emotional neediness. If I said I was stressed about money for instance – he would tell me I was a downer and to stop playing the victim. I was working full time and Jim did not have to work but instead was living off of the 400k that he had in his stock brokerage account when he and his wife divorced - that he had since turned into 1.2 million dollars as well as his ownership interest in the family business. I was often stressed -- because I had previously lost some of my savings/retirement in an investment and was working 50 hours a week for a boss that was very full of himself (I had worked with several difficult people in the past – but this guy was different – he would actually say things in an extremely condescending manner to try and make you feel stupid – and I wasn’t the first employee that had spent a day at their desk in tears because of harsh words by this guy). If I complained about money or my boss – Jim – would get agitated – and tell me that he bet I didn’t dump this kind of emotional baggage on my other friends. I was disappointed – but eventually learned to control my emotions and not look to Jim for emotional support – however, I would lose it from time to time like when Jim would talk about his great success in the market – and I would just want to feel like we were a team and that we could build a future together.
At this time, I also began noticing that he was spending less and less time with me and more and more time in the City where his son lived -- even when his son would be in the care of his mother. I would complain and he would tell me that if I wasn’t so emotional – things would work out and we would bet together forever, we could be a team etc. I had also noticed that he wasn't say nice things to me as often. In fact, I couldn’t remember the last time he had told me he loved me or that I was pretty or anything else nice for that matter. I also remembered that during this time – he accidentally sent me a text that was meant for his single friend “Don.” He was planning on going out on Don’s boat that day and asked if there would be any other “single” people there because married people were “boring.” I was hurt and asked him if he wanted to be single – he said that again – I was being childish and that he was an adult and didn’t want me restricting his freedom. For the next six months – I vowed to stay chill with my emotions – no matter what occurred and whether it hurt.
I remember around Christmas last year – he sent me a text saying – that he wanted to tell me that he loved me – because he knew he hadn’t in a very long time – and that I was kind to him and that he didn’t deserve it. I was so happy – to hear that he did still love me that I burst into tears… I had thought that because I had been “good” and not bothered him with my emotional baggage or other relationship "demands" i.e. seeing each other more.… that he loved me again and that things would go back to normal i.e. we would start planning our future together and see each other more.
I remember some time last February – I went to Jim’s house and ended up waking up in the middle of the night. I sat down at his computer that he had given me the password to when we were trying to place a sports bet. I went to type in something and noticed the first previous search bar that popped up was a craigslist add for a hooker in Dallas Texas – where his adult son “Matt” lived. I knew that Jim was planning on visiting Matt for his birthday and while I had been invited on such vacations in the past, I wasn’t invited on this one. Shortly thereafter, I was making Jim’s bed and found a condom on the floor. – we didn’t use condoms. I confronted Jim on both issues. He became livid and the discussion got more heated than I would like to admit. He accused me of being insecure, emotional, petty etc. and explained that he was planning to rent this hooker for photos with Matt and his friends for Matt’s birthday. He also explained that the condom was probably Matt’s from the time Matt and his girlfriend had spent at his place during Christmas. He then told me he no longer trusted me because it was obvious I was snooping, violating his trust etc. and that I needed to leave his house immediately. He then accused me of bizarre things like – turning over the photos of his kids (which I had not done – I actually loved his kids and had even put photos of them up at my house). I told him I wanted to stay and to try and work things out – but his tone was so mean – it was like I was talking to another person. I broke down and cried – Jim had no empathy – he told me to stop being a baby, to grow up and get control of myself.. Jim left me at his house the next day and told me that he was so angry he was staying somewhere else. Once again – I was devastated and he made me feel as if it were my fault. And I believed him.
Things were on and off again from there on… Jim would be kind and show me attention from time to time but then other times – would tell me I was too emotional and “crazy” for him to be with. He also started saying – things like – I need to find a new “good” girlfriend and that I should do the same. I thought he was joking. I felt strongly that he had fallen out of love or more likely was never in love with me but somehow believed him when he would say that if I could just stop being so emotional and needy that the relationship would strengthen and go back to how it was in the beginning. During this time - I would ask Jim how he felt about me and he would tell me that he “loved” me when I was being normal and not crazy. So – I stupidly tried to sweep my feelings under the rug and offered up my love and friendship to him without asking for anything in return. Towards the end of the summer – Jim planned a family vacation with his kids and his niece that I had also become friends with. My sons and I weren’t invited. I was hurt but he explained that he didn’t need someone “crazy” around – and that he just needed to spend some quality time with them. I understood. He and his kids stopped by my house on their way back from their vacation we hung out as if we were a couple again. We were intimate and Jim even sent me a text of quote talking about loving someone so much that it hurt. I was happy – He said we could see each other more if I would just stop being so psycho all the time.
Shortly thereafter – Jim invited me to his house – I was excited. I thought maybe we were starting to repair things. I hadn’t been there in months. While I was there, he took me to this property that he had decided to buy with this young single mom/real estate agent that he had just met. I was upset - but tried to hold it together. I think I was mostly upset because we had talked about buying a house together where I would put down some $$ and he would put down some $$ and I had also asked him several times if he had wanted to invest with me as I loved investing in fixer-uppers and building spec homes. He had always declined explaining that he didn’t have enough money because it was all in stocks etc. and that if this stock went up he would etc.
When he took me to the property – I said it was beautiful – but that I wasn’t sure if it would make a good investment as the sitework would be very expensive and the price that you could get for the homes out there didn’t really justify the costs involved with the development. He got angry- very angry – and called me petty, jealous, insecure and immature. He said – you’d have no problem if she was a male. I said that wasn’t true and that maybe I was a little insecure about the fact that she was so striking but that most of my hurt stemmed from the fact that he wanted to invest with someone else other than me – after I had sent him a million properties to look at as an investment over the years and he had declined all of my ideas. I asked if – I could see the numbers and if it looked good, I could maybe put in some cash too as it would be fun to do a project together – he said "no – I don’t want to do a project with someone as emotional as you." I later found out that he had purchased the property with cash and formed a LLC with this woman that he did not know and was willing to split the profits with her 50/50. We got into a huge argument – and I lost it. I screamed that he was mean and that I thought he was buying property with another person – just to spite me! He called me manipulative and controlling just like his mother and ex-wife. He explained that he was an adult and could buy anything he wanted. I said - I agreed but that it still hurt because I felt like he was listening to this woman's opinion over mine. I cried – and for the first time ever -- He laughed at me for crying. It was at that point – I started questioning everything – did this person who I deeply loved – have any empathy at all whatsoever? I had seen him hug his niece when she was upset and crying once – but he had never offered me that kind of care when I was upset. But to actually laugh and take enjoyment from someone else’s pain? I was not only devastated but I then started questioning not only my own judgment by my own sanity. Maybe – I deserved this – I thought – Maybe I am jealous… I know I am too emotional… etc. I left in tears.
We slowly starting talking again. Then - a couple weeks later – I was on social media and noticed – that he had commented on this photo of this female with her boobs hanging out – it was a fire emoji. I was hurt and pissed. I had no idea that he was out flirting with other people. I thought we were on again off-again -but that we were still working things out and might get back together. After I saw his comment, I sent him a million angry texts that I’m not proud of – things like “f*&$ you” – “I hope you drop dead” etc. I know. I know. No excuse - not okay - I own it. I realize that this was an overreaction for a comment on a photo – but by that point – I felt as if it was a confirmation of what I had thought all along – he was treating himself as single when I wasn’t around -- I had finally lost it and was angry – very angry. I thought to myself – what else don’t I know? That’s when I checked Tinder – I made a fake account and sure enough – Jim was on there – “divorced for 20 years. Friends first then connection. No drama.” My heart shattered. I had no idea he was actually dating other people – especially since we had just slept together a week and a half earlier. I was so hurt. I immediately called Jim. His immediate reaction of course was anger – but when he understood that I knew he was on Tinder – he explained – that his "friend" had signed him up and that he had only been on for a week and that we were broken up. He also said he was deleting his account. I took that as a sign that there was still a chance we could mend things. I know – I look like a pathetic idiot at this point.
After the Tinder incident - I told Jim that I still loved him and wanted to work things out - he immediately showed up on my doorstep and spent the next couple days with me – he was sweet and kind, and we were intimate – but we didn’t talk about our future at all. We again started texting all day long like we had done before when things were good and when I tried to raise the issue of how he felt about me - he basically said - don't start- and that if i could just let things be -- they would get better. At this point – I had no idea – how Jim really felt about me – I just remembered the good Jim and how great those first two years had been – and the last six months just felt like this surreal bad dream. I just wanted it over – or to know once and for all how Jim really felt about me.
That's when I did one of the worst things I’ve probably ever done. I signed up on Tinder under a fake account and sure enough – Jim was on there. This was of course – after he had stated several times that he wasn’t. I swiped right – Jim had liked me too!! I sent him a message as “Carly” and before you know it – I was meeting Jim for a drink… and I was extremely flirtatious… the texting quickly turned sexual - he loved it – I ended up cancelling at the last minute (because I’m two hours away) – and said I would make it up to him. He said he could meet up with me on Saturday after he got back from running an errand near where I lived (Jim didn’t tell me he was coming to my town to run an errand). Friday night, Carly texted to see if they were still on - he texted back saying he was horny and couldn’t wait... Shortly before his Tinder date – I was sure to tell Jim that I missed him and loved him and still wanted to work things out. He texted me back a love song – (which he had explained was his way of telling me he loved me) with lyrics like “the love that I feel is oh so strong”… etc. I was disgusted - It was at this point that I realized that not one of the songs that he had sent me in the past meant anything to him. That it was all lies. I hopped in the car and drove up to meet him – he showed up looking dapper and ready to mingle. I thought about just cancelling on him – but I needed to see his reaction – because in the past – when I had confronted him about questionable behavior – he was always able to explain it away – and I was usually in such an emotional state – that nothing was ever clear. This time, I would be watching his reaction closely with a clear head and there was really no way he could explain this away.
When I came walking in – he looked as if he had seen a ghost. Jim was livid. I tried to tell him that since things had been so confused and he wouldn’t be honest with me – that I had to figure out for myself what was going on. He said I had gone too far and that this was next level devious/psycho shit and that if I posted this story on Reddit – I would be the one skewered. I felt bad. I told him I was sorry that I had hurt his feelings and that I didn’t do it to make him feel stupid or embarrassed – that I just needed to know the truth. He actually told me - that he just wanted to talk to some person that was nice and wasn't me or is his ex-wife. I didn't really say much - because there was really no point anymore. So anyway – I am posting this on Reddit – to see – if I am a terrible person or if perhaps – my crazy actions might have been justified by Jim’s behavior. Sorry – this is so long – but – without the background facts – even I think that I appear psycho. Also - while I still love Jim - I don't think there's any recovering from the above - Thoughts??
TL/DR - i made a fake Tinder account after months of breaking up and getting back together with my ex to see if he was lying to me about his feelings and interest in dating other people. He set a date with my fake Tinder girl, I showed up and he was extremely angry - called me psycho and said if i posted this on Reddit - I would be skewered.
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2020.09.21 20:16 WhatMyHeartHeld Game Notes Week 2

• The Cardinals defeated Washington 30-15 in Arizona’s 2020 home opener at State Farm Stadium on Sunday. The Cardinals have now started a season 2-0 for the first time since 2015 and just the sixth time in the last 30 seasons (2020, 2015, 2014, 2012, 2008, 1991).
• With the victory on Sunday, Arizona improved to 10-5 in home-openers at State Farm Stadium.
• After going 2-11-1 in the month of September over the previous four seasons (2016-19), the Cardinals have now kicked off the first month of the 2020 season with a 2-0 record.
• Through two weeks, Arizona sits atop the winningest division in the NFL. The NFC West has compiled a 7-1 record so far in 2020. No other division has more than five wins. The NFC West is just the second division since the division realignment in 2002 to have a least seven wins through the first two weeks of a season (AFC West in 2002).
• The NFC West is also the only division in which each team has a positive point differential.

2020 NFC West Standings

Team W L PF PA Hm Road Div Conf
Arizona 2 0 54 35 1-0 1-0 1-0 2-0
L.A. Rams 2 0 57 36 1-0 1-0 0-0 2-0
Seattle 2 0 73 55 1-0 1-0 0-0 1-0
San Francisco 1 1 51 37 0-1 1-0 0-1 0-1

TWO GAMES AND TWO BIG PERFORMANCES BY ARIZONA OFFENSE

• After posting 404 total yards in the victory over San Francisco in Week 1, the Cardinals upped that total in Week 2 and finished Sunday’s game vs. Washington with 438 total yards (160 rushing; 278 passing). It marks the sixth time Arizona reached 400+ total yards in 18 games under head coach *Kliff Kingsbury*. Arizona reached 400+ yards just once over the two seasons combined (2017-18) prior to Kingsbury’s arrival.
The 2020 season marks just the second time in franchise history (1976) that the Cardinals have posted 400+ net yards and 20+ first downs in each of the first two games of a season.
• Only five times in franchise history have the Cardinals had more net yards in the first two games of a season than they have in 2020. Arizona’s 842 yards are the most through two games since the team had 903 yards in 1984.

Franchise History – Most Yards Thru 2 Games

Rnk Year Yds
1 1984 903
2 1976 876
3 1947 867
4 1958 861
5 1965 846
6t 2020 842
6t 1959 842
The Cardinals have 340 rushing yards and 502 net passing yards in 2020. It’s just the second time in franchise history Arizona has had 300+ rushing yards and 500+ passing yards through two games. In 1984, the Cardinals had 378 rushing yards and 525 passing yards through two games.
Through two games, the Arizona offense ranks:

NFL Offensive Rankings in 2020

Statistic NFL Rnk
Total Plays (151) 2nd
Big Play Runs (12) t-2nd
Rushing 1st Downs (21) 3rd
Rushing TDs (4) t-3rd
Rushing Yards/Game (170.0) 5th
Total Net Yards/Game (421.0) 6th
Time of Possession Avg (32:36) 6th
Scoring Drives (10) t-6th
Big Plays (17) 7th
1st Downs (46) t-8th
Total TDs (6) t-11th
Points/Game (27.0) t-12th
Passing Yards/Game (251.0) 13th
• Of the Cardinals six scoring drives in Sunday’s win, four consisted of at least 10 plays and three covered at least 70 yards. Through two games, Arizona has five scoring drives of 10+ plays (14, 12, 1, 10, 10) and five scoring drives of 70+ yards (94, 75, 75, 75, 74).
• In the victory over Washington on Sunday, Arizona had four different players post 50+ receiving yards – DeAndre Hopkins (68), Andy Isabella (67), Christian Kirk (57) and Larry Fitzgerald (50) – and two different players rush for 60+ yards – Kenyan Drake (86) and Kyler Murray (67).

ARIZONA KEEPS THINGS ROLLING ON 4TH DOWN

• Arizona had its first two 4th down attempts of the season vs. Washington on Sunday and converted both. Under Kingsbury, the Cardinals are now 15-of-22 on 4th conversion attempts. Their 68.2 conversion percentage ranks second in NFL dating back to last season.

NFL Leaders - 4th Down Conversion % (2019-20)

Rnk Team Pct. Att Conv
1 Baltimore 73.1 26 19
2 Arizona 68.2 22 15
3 Kansas City 66.7 12 8
4 Cincinnati 58.1 31 18
5 Denver 57.9 19 11

CARDS KEEP PILING UP YARDS IN THE RUN GAME

• After posting 180 rushing yards and two TDs on 36 attempts (5.0 avg.) in Week 1 at San Francisco, the Cardinals rushed for 160 yards and two TDs on 32 attempts (5.0 avg.) on Sunday vs. Washington. It marks the first time since 1979 the Cardinals rushed for 160+ yards in each of the first two games of a season.
• Sunday’s contest marked the seventh time the Cardinals have rushed for 150+ yards in 18 games under Kingsbury. Arizona had seven such games in the three seasons (2016-18) prior to his arrival.
• Through the first two weeks of 2020, Arizona’s 340 rushing yards rank fifth in the NFL.

NFL Leaders – Team Rushing Yards (2020)

Rnk Team Yds Att Avg
1 Green Bay 417 67 6.2
2 Cleveland 353 62 5.7
3 L.A. Rams 344 79 4.4
4 Baltimore 341 67 5.1
5 Arizona 340 68 5.0
• In 18 games under Kingsbury, the Cardinals have rushed for 2,330 yards and 22 TDs on 464 carries (5.02 avg.). That is an average of 129.4 yards per game.
• With the victory over Washington on Sunday, Arizona improved to 6-1 in games it has rushed for 150+ yards under Kingsbury.

DEFENSE GETS IT DONE AGAIN, HOLDING WASHINGTON TO 15 POINTS

• On the birthday of defensive coordinator Vance Joseph, Arizona’s defense held Washington scoreless in the first half and allowed just 15 points in the win on Sunday. Dating back to last season, it marks the third time in the last four games Arizona has held an opponent to 20 points or fewer.
• The Cardinals held Washington to four conversions on 12 third down attempts (33%) yesterday. Through two games, Arizona’s opponents have converted just six of 23 attempts on third down. That 26.1% conversion rate leads the NFL.

NFL Leaders – Opponent 3rd Down Conv. Pct. (2020)

Rnk Team Pct Att Conv
1 Arizona 26.1 23 6
2 Baltimore 28.6 21 6
3 Chicago 31.0 29 9
4 Denver 32.1 28 9
5 Detroit 34.8 23 8
• Dating back to the final four games of last season, Arizona’s defense under Joseph ranks:

NFL Defensive Ranks (Since Week 14 of 2019)

Statistic Rnk
Rushing TDs Allowed (3) t-3rd
Passing Yards/Game (210.3) 4th
Sacks (17) t-5th
Net Yards Allowed/Game (333.0) 8th
Points Allowed/Game (21.0) t-8th
Yards/Play Allowed (5.26) 9th
TDs allowed (13) t-10th
Completion % Allowed (63.3) t-12th
• Four different Cardinals defenders recorded their first sack of the season in the victory over Washington: Corey Peters, Devon Kennard, Jordan Phillips and Haason Reddick. Through two games, seven different Arizona defenders have a sack.
• The first three players signed by the Cardinals in free agency this offseason were LBs Devon Kennard and De’Vondre Campbell and DL Jordan Phillips. Through the first two games this season, the trio has combined for 19 tackles, 3 TFL, 2.0 sacks, 2 QB hits, 2 passes defensed and a forced fumble.

HOPKINS AT 22 RECEPTIONS THROUGH TWO GAMES / CATCHES 1ST TD WITH CARDINALS

• After catching a career-high 14 passes in his Cardinals debut at San Francisco in Week 1, WR DeAndre Hopkins followed up with eight catches for 68 yards and a TD in Sunday’s win over Washington. With 22 catches in two games, Hopkins established an NFL record for most receptions in a player’s first two games with a team. The previous record of 19 was set by Earl Cooper (San Francisco) in 1980 and matched by Eric Metcalf (Atlanta) in 1995.

NFL Record – Receptions in 1st 2 Games with a Team

Rnk Player (Team) Rec Year
1 DeAndre Hopkins (AZ) 22 2020
2t Eric Metcalf (Atl) 19 1995
2t Earl Cooper (SF) 19 1980
4t Anquan Boldin (AZ) 18 2003
4t Jamison Crowder (NYJ) 18 2019
Hopkins’ 22 catches are the most for any player in franchise history through the first two games of a season. Anquan Boldin (18 in 2003) held the previous mark.

Franchise Record – Receptions in 1st 2 Games of Season

Rnk Player (Year) Rec
1 DeAndre Hopkins (2020) 22
2 Anquan Boldin (2003) 18
3t Larry Fitzgerald (2005) 17
3t J.T. Smith (1989) 17
3t Don Stonesifer (1953) 17
Hopkins’ 22 receptions lead the NFL through the first two weeks of 2020.

NFL Leaders – Receptions (2020)

Rnk Player (Team) Rec
1 WR DeAndre Hopkins (AZ) 22
2 WR Davante Adams (GB) 17
3t WR Calvin Ridley (Atl) 16
3t WR Amari Cooper (Dal) 16
3t WR Stefon Diggs (Buf) 16
• Hopkins now has five-or-more receptions in 20 consecutive games played. In NFL history, only Antonio Brown (36 straight) had a longer streak of games with five-or-more catches.

NFL History – Consecutive Games with 5+ Receptions (All-Time)

Rnk Player (Team) Gms Years
1 Antonio Brown (Pit) 36 2013-15
2t DeAndre Hopkins (Hou/AZ) 20* 2018-20
2t Michael Thomas (NO) 20 2018-19
2t Jarvis Landry (Mia/Cle) 20 2017-18
5 Laveranues Coles (NYJ/Was) 19 2002-03
*Active Streak
• Hopkins first catch on Sunday gave him at least one reception in 112 consecutive games. He now has a reception in every game played in his career. Hopkins’ streak of 112 consecutive games with a reception is the fourth-longest active streak in the NFL.

NFL Leaders - Consecutive Games with a Reception (Active Streak)

Rnk Player (Team) Gms Date Streak Started
1 Larry Fitzgerald (AZ) 245 Nov. 7, 2004
2 Julio Jones (Atl) 120 Dec. 4, 2011
3 Golden Tate (NYG) 117 Oct. 28, 2012
4 DeAndre Hopkins (AZ) 112 Sept. 9, 2013
5 Jarvis Landry (Cle) 97 Sept. 7, 2014
• Hopkins hauled in his first TD catch of the season on a four-yard reception from Kyler Murray in the first quarter. It was his 55th career TD reception, the most among active NFL players dating back to his rookie season in 2013.

Active NFL Leaders – Receiving Touchdowns (2013-)

Rnk Player (Current Team) TD
1 DeAndre Hopkins (AZ) 55
2t Jimmy Graham (Chi) 50
2t Mike Evans (TB) 50
4 Odell Beckham (Cle) 49
5 Davante Adams (GB) 46
• With his TD reception from Kyler Murray, Hopkins has now caught at least one TD pass from 11 different QBs in his NFL career.

By Quarterback (11)

TDs Quarterback
25 Deshaun Watson
7 T.J. Yates
6 Ryan Fitzpatrick
5 Brian Hoyer
4 Brock Osweiler
2 Ryan Mallett
2 Tom Savage
1 Kyler Murray
1 Case Keenum
1 Matt Schaub
1 Brandon Weeden

MURRAY OFF TO A RECORD-SETTING START IN 2020

• In Week 1 at San Francisco, QB Kyler Murray threw for 230 yards and a TD and also rushed for 91 yards and a TD in leading the Cardinals to a win. He was even better on Sunday vs. Washington, throwing for 286 yards and a TD while rushing for 67 yards and two TDs on just eight carries. He is the first Cardinals QB with a passing and rushing TD in consecutive games since Jim Hart accomplished the feat in 1969.
• Through two games, Murray has thrown for 516 yards and two TDs while rushing for 158 yards and three TDs. He is the first QB in the Super Bowl era to pass for 500+ yards and rush for 150+ yards through the first two games of a season.
• Murray had TD runs of 14 and 21 yards against Washington on Sunday. He became the first Cardinals QB with multiple rushing TDs of 14+ yards in a game since Hall of Famer Charley Trippi (18 and 26 yards) against the Chicago Bears on 12/16/51 at Wrigley Field.
Murray is the first QB in NFL history to rush for 150+ yards and 3+ TDs in the first two games of a season. He is also the first Cardinals player in franchise history – regardless of position – to rush for 150+ yards and 3+ TDs in the first two games of a season.
• Despite having played in just 18 career games, Murray already owns five of the top-nine single-game rushing performances by a QB in franchise history.

Rushing Yards By Quarterback – Single Game (All-Time)

Rnk Player Yds Opponent
1 Charley Trippi 145 12/16/51 @ Chicago
3 M.C. Reynolds* 99 11/2/58 vs. Philadelphia
3 Kyler Murray* 93 10/6/19 @ Cincinnati
4 Kyler Murray 91 9/13/20 @ San Francisco
5 Charley Trippi 86 10/5/52 vs. Chicago
6 Charley Trippi 81 11/18/51 @ San Francisco
7 Kyler Murray* 69 9/22/19 vs. Carolina
8t Kyler Murray 67 9/20/20 vs. Washington
8t Kyler Murray* 67 11/17/19 @ San Francisco
*Rookie Season
• Murray’s 21-yard TD run in the fourth quarter vs. Washington was his third career TD run of 20+ yards (22-yarder at San Francisco in Week 1 of 2012; 22-yarder at San Francisco in Week 11 of 2019). Murray is the only QB with at least three TD runs of 20+ yards dating back to last season.

NFL Leaders – QB TD Runs of 20+ Yards (2019-20)

Rnk Player (Team) TD
1 Kyler Murray (AZ) 3
2 Lamar Jackson (Bal) 2
3t Joe Burrow (Cin) 1
3t Taysom Hill (NO) 1
3t Ryan Tannehill (Ten) 1
3t Mitchell Trubisky (Chi) 1
3t Deshaun Watson (Hou) 1
Over the last 61 seasons (1960-2020), there have been six total TD runs of 20+ yards by a Cardinals QB. Murray has three of those TD runs in his last eight games.

TD Runs of 20+ Yards by Cardinals QB (1960-2020)

Player Opponent Distance
Kyler Murray 9/20/20 vs. Washington 21
Kyler Murray 9/13/20 @ San Francisco 22
Kyler Murray 11/17/19 @ San Francisco 22
Jake Plummer 10/27/02 @ San Francisco 34
Neil Lomax 12/6/81 vs. New Orleans 22
Jim Hart 9/24/67 @ Pittsburgh 23

LARRY FITZGERALD PLAYS IN 252ND CAREER GAME AND 111TH AT STATE FARM STADIUM

• WR Larry Fitzgerald caught seven passes for 50 yards against Washington on Sunday while playing in his 252nd career game. In NFL history, only 10 players have appeared in more games with a single team.

NFL Leaders - Games w/ Single Team (All-Time)

Rnk Player (Team) Games
1 K Jason Hanson (Det) 327
2 OL Bruce Matthews (Hou/Ten) 296
3 CB Darrell Green (Was) 295
4 QB Tom Brady (NE)* 285
5 DE Jim Marshall (Min) 270
6 K Sebastian Janikowski (Oak) 268
7 OL Jackie Slater (LAR) 259
8 OL David Binn (SD) 256
9 QB Brett Favre (GB) 255
10 TE Jason Witten (Dal)* 255
11 WR Larry Fitzgerald (AZ)* 252
*Active Player
• The win over Washington also represented Fitzgerald’s 86th consecutive start in a streak that dates back to 2014. That is the longest starting streak among active wide receivers and the sixth-longest active starting streak among offensive players in the NFL.

NFL Leaders – Consecutive Starts by Offensive Players (Active)

Rnk Player (Team) Starts
1 QB Philip Rivers (Ind) 226
2t T Mitchell Schwartz (KC) 130
2t QB Russell Wilson (Sea) 130
4 T Jake Matthews (Atl) 96
5 C Jason Kelce (Phi) 92
6 WR Larry Fitzgerald (AZ) 86
7 TE Kyle Rudolph (Min) 83
8t C Alex Mack (Atl) 82
8t T Morgan Moses (Was) 82
10 T Alejandro Villanueva (Pit) 75
• Yesterday’s home-opener was Fitzgerald’s 111th career game at State Farm Stadium. He has now appeared in 111 of 113 regular season games played at the venue since it opened in 2006. Fitzgerald has also now played in all 15 home openers at State Farm Stadium.
• Fitzgerald has at least one catch in 245 consecutive games, the second-longest streak in NFL history behind only Jerry Rice (274 straight). Fitzgerald’s streak of 245 consecutive games with a catch is the longest in NFL history with a single team. He has at least one reception in 251 of 252 career games.

NFL Record - Consecutive Games with a Reception

Rnk Player (Years) Games Streak Dates Duration
1 Jerry Rice (1985-2004) 274 12/9/85 – 9/12/04 18 years, 8 months, 15 days
2 Larry Fitzgerald (2004-) 245 11/7/04 – 9/20/20 15 years, 10 months, 14 days
3 Tony Gonzalez (2000-2013) 211 12/4/00 – 12/29/13 13 years, 26 days
4 Marvin Harrison (1996-2008) 190 9/1/96 – 12/28/08 12 years, 3 months, 28 days
5 Hines Ward (1998-2010) 186 11/9/98 – 11/8/10 12 years
• Among active streaks, Fitzgerald’s run of 245 consecutive games with a reception is more than twice as long as the second-place player: Julio Jones (120 games).

CAMPBELL’S RARE OUTING IN SECOND GAME WITH ARIZONA

• Signed as a free agent in the offseason, LB De’Vondre Campbell had a very productive outing against Washington on Sunday, finishing with 10 tackles, two tackles for loss and two passes defensed. In doing so, he joined Budda Baker (10/31/19 vs. San Francisco) and Adrian Wilson (9/30/12 vs. Miami) as the only Cardinals defenders in the last nine seasons (2012-20) to record 10+ tackles, 2+ tackles for loss and 2+ passes defensed in a game.
• Yesterday’s game marked Campbell’s seventh career outing with 10+ tackles, five of which have come in his last 15 games dating back to last season.

OTHER WEEK 2 NOTES

• LS Aaron Brewer – now in his ninth NFL season and playing in his 119th career game on Sunday – recovered the first fumble of his career in the first quarter. Covering a punt return, Brewer jumped on a ball forced loose by TE Darrell Daniels at the WAS 40-yard line. Six plays later QB Kyler Murray scored on a 14-yard TD run to give Arizona a 14-0 lead.
• Second-year WR Andy Isabella hauled in a 54-yard reception in the second quarter to help set up a Cardinals FG that gave Arizona a 17-0 lead. Of his 11 career receptions, three have covered at least 50 yards (54. 55 and 88).
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2020.09.21 19:41 blue_white143 Feeling bore on date

I am dating someone for almost four months We have been 5 times I started to feel bore with him Background ( we are from different cultures) I don’t have lots of experience of dating I have been single mostly in my life( I am in my 40s he is in his 50s) What’s your thoughts Thanks
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2020.09.21 09:04 saintlyvirgin420 17 years

TL;DR: I’m 21 and I recently found out my step dad has been cheating on my mom for the last 17 years.
My parents separated when I was about 3, but it had been over even before I was born. My biological father did some pretty (emotionally) fucked up shit, so like many people, I’ve got the classic daddy issues. Usually shows itself in over sexualization, and abandonment issues. Anyways, my mom had started dating my step dad, they were in love, he moved in, they got married, he physically carried me into my first day of kindergarten, the whole shebang(sp?)
They celebrated their 15 year anniversary literally last week and a few days before then, they weren’t taking to each other and every time I asked my mom what was going on she said I needed to ask him. The thing about my step dad is that every time there’s confrontation, he buries his head in the sand and says “it’s nothing,” and “don’t worry about it.” I tried asking him face to face anyway and got nothing, so I waited about a day and texted our group chat with my older sister (27) and still got no response. I asked my mom about two days before and asked if we were doing the vow renewal or not, and she said she was still going through with it because she’d already spent too much money.
I found out yesterday and I think it was accidental word vomit out when my mom told me. She just said, “I don’t think he’s happy being married to me.” And it kind of spiraled from there. She told me it’s been an issue since I was a kid, like going back to the first church we went to and our first pastor knowing, my mom’s best friend knowing. My parents kind of painted this perfect marriage for me and my sister growing up, and now I’m feeling fucked in the head. I mean, of course they had a few fights when I was a kid, but I just assumed it was about finances, or discipline, or something that wasn’t CHEATING of all fucking things. The way my parents looked at each other, and how much my mom loved my dad and my dad loved my mom, it truly never crossed my mind this was something going on.
My mom said she’s stayed this whole time for me and my sister and I understand why she did it, but now I’m really fucking sad because I can’t stop thinking was every single fight they had when I was younger about this? I’m having a really hard time saying “my dad” without turning into an angry ball of tears. 17 fucking years dude. He’s always been secretive because of his past (he comes from a really shitty, toxic family,) but now I feel like I really have no clue who he is. I explained to my mom that I do love him, but at the same time I’ve never felt connected to him my entire life. I told her although he was there like a dad, Steve(bio dad) had already fucked me up, so I would’ve had daddy issues whether she left back then or not. Of course I love him, he’s been there for all of the big moments, but at the same time, this is just appalling.
My mom left to a nearby city for the weekend to decide what she wants to do next. She said they’ve tried therapy but after a few sessions, he always ends up not going anymore and finds any excuse to stop. “I didn’t feel connected, the insurance, etc.” I told her about a conversation my sister and I had a few year ago and we had said we wouldn’t be bothered if they got a divorce and it was my mom and my sister and I again. She said she doesn’t want to start over at 50. I don’t know.
I can’t stop crying and thinking about how my dad handles the cell bill and tells me what insurance I need to get when open enrollment comes around and tells me what I need to get fixed on my car in what order so I don’t go over budget. He’s from California and loves baseball and all the Dodgers mercy we have every where in our house and masks and T-shirt’s. I’ve always said when I have kids one day, I was going to put them in baseball so they could pitch like my dad did in high school. He loves peanut butter and his favorite color is blue. His dream truck was a midnight blue Raptor.
He tried to apologize when I came home from work last night. I just told him I didn’t want to talk about it and started talking about how work went. We’re both in customer service and dealing with people who don’t want to wear masks is hard on both of us so bitches about it for a while. I didn’t bother coming out of my room this morning and barely spoke to him through the door, or when I came home from work. Now we’re both sitting on opposite sides of the house in our rooms, with the doors shut. I’m worried he can hear me crying, but at the same time I know he doesn’t care. I told my mom he isn’t sorry, he’s just embarrassed.
My mom said he doesn’t even fake cry when he gets caught anymore. She told him if he really wanted to make this right, he would tell me. (This was a conversation they had last week.) I’m worried my mom will stay for another 17 years. I can’t bear to look at him. Everything I know, my entire childhood, my parents marriage, what I thought was true love is all crashing right now and it’s all a lie.
I reminded my mom that she’s always told me that you train people how to treat you. She said that it’s been a cycle of him getting caught, she gets mad, he leaves her alone and cooks and cleans until she cools down and drops it and things go back to normal until the next time. He’s left her alone this whole time. He didn’t ask her where she was going when she walked out with packed bags, he didn’t respond when she texted him and asked him to leave when she comes back Monday morning, because I think he thinks this will just blow over again.
We still haven’t told my sister. She’s been through a lot of change and growth the last 4 years and is at the end of the road and has been doing really fucking well. I’m scared if we tell her, she’ll have a bad set back. She’s also the crier and I’m typically more rejecting to emotions and stuff, so if I’m crying, I’m really worried about how she’ll react. Then again, she’s overly sensitive and super dramatic. But nonetheless, I’m really concerned about how and when my mom and I will tell her. My mom and I agreed to not say anything until the decision has been made. I hope she makes the decision soon. I just really want my sister right now.
If you made it this far, I’m so sorry this is so long. Also if the formatting is weird. I’m on my phone. I was in the middle of Tetris when I realized I couldn’t get a grip. I don’t know how to handle this right now. I could never understand why kids were upset about divorce when I was younger because I, a) didn’t think I cared that much, or b) never thought it would happen in my adult life. Please leave kind words of encouragement of how I can help my mom right now, or what to do for myself. How to tell my sister? Anything, really. I don’t feel like life is real and can feel myself starting to disappear again.
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2020.09.21 02:02 facetroller How I went from a low tier normie to a Becky

I'm new here but this sub has been exactly what I've needed all my life! I love all the posts on here, no sugarcoating or "everyone is beautiful" crap - just scientific and analytical helpful info and insights. So I thought I'd contribute my experience of looks-maxing. I don't know if this sort of content is allowed here so please let me know if it's not!!
So me as a kid: wide big head, fivehead, small uneven eyes, lots of face moles, flat profile. I have genetically unfortunate fat distribution meant my fat always went to my face (cheeks and chin especially) and arms first so I always looked heavier than I actually was. Even my slim cousin had disproportionately fatty arms. Socially I was alright at the time but then my family immigrated and I was severely bullied, which made me shut in and develop anxiety which I still have to this day. One of my friend’s (let’s call her Lily) family called me Fat Nina (let’s give me the fake name Nina for the purposes of this story) behind my back, something I learned only in recent years because she had another friend with the same first name. More on this later.
Me as a teenager: Had janked teeth and got braces. Never wear my hair up due to my lack of jaw and wide face. Managed somehow to get a “boyfriend” in high school but he ghosted me after 2 months lol. At this time, I also got an autoimmune disease which made my thyroid big and throat bulge and had the potential to make my eyes pop out permanently in a grotesque way. The medication for it makes you gain weight like crazy. Just great, right?! One of my close friends (Jen) at this time (16 years old) who everyone considered rather plain went back to her hometown and got double eyelid surgery. She looked a bit odd when she came back but as she healed, I started noticing she was more confident and got more attention from people although no one could quite pinpoint what changed about her. That sparked my interest.
Me from 18-21: I went out a lot with Jen (who by now was a Stacy-lite/Instagram baddie look) during this period of time partying and she would always get stopped by guys on the street, girls in bathrooms randomly striking up a conversation with her, while I would be completely ignored. Got free drinks though as a benefit of being her friend but it didn’t feel good. I started to lose the weight and got another boyfriend and finally lost my virginity. He was good looking but had lots of issues and we connected intellectually (although it was a terrible on and off relationship with lots of lies on his part). At around 18-19 I started getting adult/hormonal acne. There’s only so much you can do to cover red bumps on your face. I took prescribed antibiotics for acne but they didn’t really work for long. I had heard about birth control for acne but I was worried about the side effects. It didn’t help that my face moles made it look like there were even more blemishes. Towards the end of this stage, I decided fuck it and got my eyes done too. They went from small and full and uneven to symmetrical, wide and soulful. I, too, started getting compliments. At this stage I also got eyelash extensions, better at makeup and had my brows microbladed. Also, fortunately, my boobs grew in (34DD) by 19 but I was so used to just being fat that I was still wearing the baggy clothes that made me look even fatter. Got form fitting/cleavage baring clothes. I was getting approached at clubs occasionally now. BF was worried I would leave him (I did, but for other reasons).
22: By now I had looksmaxxed 50%. I finally decided to get on the pill and my acne cleared up. I started going to raves and a girl friend of friend I met also had a face full of big black moles like me (although hers were in a cuter pattern) who one day had clear skin. She had gotten them laser removed. Amazing! I did that too. By the end of our raving days, I was getting approached more than her at raves. Jen’s friends also asked her about me which surprised her (and me too, tbh) and new people would ask me out to dinner with the group instead of Jen, although I would invite her along because I still wanted her to be included. I started noticing she was getting more snide with me and putting me down passive aggressively in front of a group (calling attention to my big forehead). She got a boob job around this time. I didn’t like the vibes anymore and left the raving scene.
23-now: I noticed that my brow shape curved down at the tails which made my RBF worse so I shaved off the tails and draw it up. I started an intensive Korean/Japanese skin care routine that I’m kind of not militant enough about but I know it’s getting me results because my Korean brow lady was sus of me getting laser skin treatments in Korea and asked me if I’d done it multiple times when I honestly haven’t. I get comments about my good skin from strangers a lot too. I got nose fillers to fix my side profile and masseter Botox for my wide jaw. That was what upped me from a high tier normie to a Becky. By now I get approached randomly on the street by normie and short good looking guys (my record so far is three times in a day. I don’t live in America so talking to strangers randomly is not toooo common where I live) and do pretty good on dating apps when I’m single. Men who take me out on dates always insist on paying, something that is apparently not “to be expected” when I compared notes with friends. At a party once when we played a game where everyone points to the person that is most fitting, a majority pointed to me when the question was “who is the most attractive in the room”. I was shocked. When I’m all done up I think I could pass for a Stacy-lite?
Now: Maintaining masseter injections and nose filler. The nurse who did my masseter injections this time said that my jaw bone isn’t actually super big, it’s mostly the fat and muscle surrounding it that gives me this look. I also had a consultation with a cosmetic surgeon last week and am getting chin/jaw/buccal lipo this week!! Next steps for me, once I’m able to get the money, is BBL (I have boobs but no butt, oh why couldn’t I have peaked in the 80s-00s), lose more weight, forehead lowering, and I’m considering dimpleplasty to fix my RBF. No one looks dour when they have dimples. They add at least 10 points, totally a halo! I have another friend (Tiff) who hard-maxxed to the extreme (low-key doesn’t look 100% human) and guys literally turn their heads to look at her on the street (I’m guessing half because they’re blown away by the unreal hot and half because she looks really extreme). Although for me personally, I think she looks too Gangnam beauty so I will not be going that route. Anyway, I think what I mentioned will take me to Stacy level.
Concluding thoughts: Looksmaxxing is real. The difference in the way I was treated by not only men, strangers and friends and friends of friends, but also women is huge. Looks don’t matter is the biggest crock of shit. Lily (the one whose family called me Fat Nina) is now legitimately fat, in a funny (but sad) turn of events and struggles with dating unfortunately. Her story was pretty much the opposite of mine with being asked about by her less attractive friends' male friends to guys sort of turning up their nose when someone suggests they date her. Anyway, moral of the story is – looksmax if you can. It’s actually easier to change your looks than your personality. Hard-maxxing has risks but it’s a calculated risk and the outcomes and changes in my life is so worth it. Make sure you do a looooot of research. You don’t have to get to Becky or Stacy level and I’m aware some people don’t have the base for it, but any amount of ascending will improve your current situation, as I have seen by the little increments of good treatment as I ascended. If I had given up all hope at 17-18 as I almost did, I would have ended up worse than Lily (she was blessed with a small face and a great figure before she gained weight).
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2020.09.21 00:53 BigfootDogmanReports Is There a Serial Pusher in Manchester? Don't Walk in the Tunnel of Doom. Death at the Devil's Urinal. Part 1

Is There a Serial Pusher in Manchester? Don't Walk in the Tunnel of Doom. Death at the Devil's Urinal. Part 1
A Visit To the Devil’s Urinal. - The Manchester Murder Mystery
Is there a serial killer loose in Manchester, and if so how has he been allowed to kill constantly for years and remain hidden. Shockingly when checking figures only the men found deceased on the canal are counted in the ‘Pushers’ death toll. And they are only counted if they are found along a small stretch of the canal within the inner city. On the 11th of January, 2015, British tabloid The Daily Star made the connection after using the Freedom of Information Act to check the number of deaths along the canal system, the Star's report revealed that 61 bodies had been pulled from the waters of Manchester in the last six years.
The Manchester ship canal runs all the way to the coast, and has many tributaries, yet the cases on these stretches are neither counted or investigated. In 2020 Reynard Sinaga was convicted of a number of sexual assaults on young men he helped back to his flat where he would drug them, attack them and film the ordeal. His apartment was on the canal itself, yet he is not being linked to any of the Pusher cases. Several days after his arrest the Manchester evening news reported there is no Pusher, and there will be no enquiry into the death of the many missing males who go missing here every month. There are thought to be around 90 deaths attributed to the Manchester 'Pusher' in the last 15 yrs. No deaths before this date are counted, and no missing are included in this number. 90 is the number of recovered victims. 90 Males pulled from the waterway, yet the Greater Manchester Police, Manchester City Council and the Media will tell you there is no one responsible for these deaths. If the deaths were accidental, surely safety precautions put in place would have reduced the number greatly? If these cases are due to bad lighting or hazardous walkways, why has this not been rectified. The City has Millions of pounds spent within its centre every day. Yet CCTV footage is minimal and Police presence a rarity.
And why no mention of the female victims, so many of them go missing on the Canal, in one case all that was found was a lower limb, the case was closed and reported as having “no suspicious circumstances’? Other victims' whereabouts were lost when vital CCTV evidence was 'missing' or 'unavailable' yet Manchester city centre has thousands of CCTV cameras in operation. One man phoned his parents, who stayed on the phone with him, and contacted the police. For 1 1/2 hrs the 999 call operator stayed on the line and tried to help. Yet the next day the police said although the 999 system records all calls automatically, unfortunately for this one call out of the many thousand received that day there is no record? This gentlemans phone was found many days later next to the canal in an area already searched by the police.
Man’s body was found in Greater Manchester waterway, taking the total number of deaths in the region in seven years to 85 - 3/2/16. The body of a man has been pulled from a canal in Greater Manchester. An astonishing 85 bodies - mostly men - have been pulled from the region's waterways in the last seven years. The cause behind the majority of the deaths are believed to have been established as not suspicious, but 28 are still classified as 'unexplained', resulting in open verdicts. Emergency services and a specialist diving unit were called after a body was spotted in Portland Basin at around 8.30am today. The man is white and believed to be in his 40s or 50s. A GMP spokesman said it was too early to establish how the man died or whether there are any suspicious circumstances.
Some recent deaths have caused speculation that loved ones were the victims of a serial killer they dubbed The Pusher - a psychopath who murders his targets by bundling them into the icy waters. Some families believe their claim has considerable substance not only because of the disproportionately high numbers of people to have died in the rivers, but due to the suspicious circumstances surrounding the deaths of several men.

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Man’s body found in water at Salford Quays 3/6/20 - Police are investigating after a man’s body was found in water at Salford Quays. Shortly before 1pm today the body of a man was discovered in the water near the Salford Watersports Centre. His body was recovered from the water by Greater Manchester Fire crews along with police.
A little like the Smiley faced killer in America the Pusher has a penchant for young men. Although as of yet no handy signature has been left at the scene. The men are often out in town, enjoying a meet up with mates, or spending their hard earned wages from the previous few days. The men, some of which are boys, are often separated from their friends for one reason or another. Many of them have phones and wallets intact when found. Which speaks of no robbery and the ability to get a cab home. So how do they vanish and appear in or next too Manchester's notorious water way?
One local resident called the Canal the ‘Devils Urinal’ due to the number of crimes committed along it's stretch and the many hundreds of people it has killed in the history of its existence. My Grt, Grt grand parents on my Mothers side left Ireland to build the canal in the 1890’s. Tinkers and Navvies they were called. Hard working men who were paid pennies to work in the deadly conditions. The canal which is really a River system made it easier for goods to be transported between Manchester and the docks at Liverpool. It made Manchester an inland port and changed the fortunes for many, good and bad. 130 men were killed during its construction. And many perished later due to the harsh working conditions. The canal was bombed over and over during the war, it shaped the city of my birth. Gone are the original communities like Hanky park and Langworthy. Over 200 years and the deaths continue, many of the cases closed regardless of circumstances. Many petitions have been presented from families asking for an inquiry into the deaths.
The next case we look at I feel should be high on the list of investigations to be re-opened.The glaring incompetence of the Police in this case was so bad it almost smacks of a cover up. It is at the very least gross negligence. Like most of the cases there was very little investigation done. People even today have the 'they were drunk' attitude when it comes to these cases. Or even worse, 'they put themselves in danger by being where they were'. Yet millions of people visit the city centre night clubs and bars everyday, restaurants, cafes and shops and make it home just fine. These cases are different. And when you see them all together you begin to realise there could be something to the rumours that a killer or several killers are at large in the Manchester area. Times that by every waterway, in every city and the figures become staggering.
Find out who Killed our Son!' Parents hear "Howls and Screams" in their son's final call? - Tragic David Plunkett’s chilling screams, heard by a 999 call handler, were not taped because the recorder was not working, claimed GMP Police. The officer who dealt with the “distressing” call was so appalled by the blunder she later resigned. The phone call from David, 21, who came from Halifax, W Yorks, was the last anyone heard from him before he was found dead in the Manchester Ship Canal three weeks later. He vanished after leaving a nightclub at Trafford Park near Manchester in April 2004. His reason for being ejected? he pushed into a queue for the gents toilets. This sadly changed the course of his life and left his family and friends devastated.
At his inquest we heard that his anguished parents rang him to check if he was OK after hearing he had lost his pals. He started to scream and howl. They dialled 999 on another phone and held the two handsets together so the police operator could hear his distress. It was the last time they spoke to their son. The pair called their son's phone the night he died, only to hear terrified screams. Anne said: 'The screaming and howling was so unearthly that you just felt it had to be something.'
This message was Issued from a former GMP officer who handled the call. The woman, who we are not naming, said: “I took a very distressing 999 call.” She said David had been “in a distressed state” during the call with his parents “but they could not hear anything other than their son screaming”. She added: “I dealt with them for well over an hour, trying to sort out assistance for them and him. "The incident still haunts me to this date and with every death I see reported in the news I become more and more convinced that these are murders and not accidents.”
A pathologist said the likely cause of death was drowning and the inquest ruled it was accidental. But David’s mum Anne, 66, disagrees. And she hit out at the police probe into her son’s death. The retired head teacher said: “Someone is responsible for David’s death. The police investigation was unacceptable. "It was a case of ‘young man, too much to drink, falls into the canal, end of story’. "But so many important factors were ignored and there were versions of events that simply did not add up.”
David Plunkett had been at a concert at the Daytona Racetrack, also in Trafford Park, before he went missing in April 2004. Recalling the last time she spoke to her son, Anne said: “I could barely make out what he was saying. "He started screaming and howling. "It was extremely distressing. "I thought he was being attacked. “We rang the police and put the phone to them but it soon went dead. "It later turned out the call wasn’t recorded because the tape recorder wasn’t working. "It really does beggar belief.” Anne said her brother found David’s phone upstream from the body – despite an earlier police search. She added: “The whole case leaves more questions than answers. "He could have been attacked, he could have had his drink spiked. "Anything could have happened.”

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"In the early hours of the morning, the phone went and it was David's friend Michael," his mother, Anne, stated. "He said he'd lost David and was trying to get in touch with him. He said he and David had lost each other in the club, and I just said to close the phone and I'd try to call David. It took about three attempts before David answered, but he didn't speak. The first thing that struck me was the quietness of where David was. It was virtually silent. All I could hear was the sound of him walking, that was evident from his breathing, and I said, 'Do you know where you are? Are you in Manchester? Do you recognise anything?' – but I got no response from him. And then, about seven or eight minutes into the call, there was suddenly this ghastly screaming. I started crying, handed the phone to my husband, Mike, and I made a 999 call"
"The screaming I heard," continues Mike, "made me feel like David had seen something that had terrified him." Then at 4:30 AM," says Anne, "the phone just went dead."
It took the police two weeks to find his body in the canal. They claimed to have searched the area and nothing was found. His uncle found his phone not too far from where his body was recovered after the supposed police search. What happened to David that night. The area of the nightclub is well lit, there are taxis outside and lots of numbers advertised in the foyer. walking towards the lights makes far more sense than wandering out of the bustle and towards the canal. Why did David not contact his friend? Were there any missed calls or texts between them? Why did the police not track David's phone and his movements that night. There is CCTV coverage in the area. Even though it was late people would have been around. It's a popular area even at night. Was anything missing from David when he was finally recovered. Were there any signs of injury? Sadly the case is now closed and there will be no further investigations or enquiries made.
A Man was Hurled into a Canal at night - Rumours of a possible serial attacker have been revived after a 34-year-old office worker was thrown into the city’s Bridgewater canal then kicked back in as he tried to save himself from drowning. The victim, who said he almost drowned after his legs became tangled in his bicycle while he was below the surface of the canal, said he had asked police about the “Manchester pusher” legend and that “they were well aware of the stories”. “I definitely feel like I’m lucky to be alive. I could easily have drowned because of what he did,” The Pusher was described as a white male aged between 20-40, he is of average height and was wearing a black jacket.
Tom says he is "disappointed" with the police response and said the canals were the perfect place for crime. "It's pitch black down there," he said. "There's no lights. You look up, someone catches your eye and then in four seconds you're in dirty water."
Tom is right, it takes a split second to push someone into the murky waters of the canal. There are areas below the bridges and walkways where you do not walk at night or in the day for fear of your safety. Many drugs deals, robberies and hate crimes take place in these hidden spots. Out of the way from busy shoppers and party goers. Once you leave the bright lights of central Manchester you are confronted with an almost Victorian street mentality. Pickpockets, homeless folk and thieves are around every corner. Add to this the lack of officers to attend incidents and you have a perfect melting pot for committing crime and getting away with it. If you want to steal someone’s phone, money, sense of security or life, do it in the back streets of Manchester and you won't have to pay a price.
8/6/18 Orlando Nyero was celebrating his 19th birthday in Manchester. Three days later his body was pulled from the Canal, which runs through the heart of the city. But he was not the first man to be found in that very spot, another victim had already died after a night out, and his body was discovered only 3 months earlier. Orlando was found in the same waterway as student Charlie Pope, also 19. Orlando and Charlie are among 90 people who have been recovered dead from Greater Manchester’s canals since 2007. There are many more who are reported missing never to be found.
Nick Pope spoke about his son Charlie and his mysterious death ""Look around here, it's just a bloody death trap," he says, as people drink outside at tables a few metres from the water's edge" The lighting is bad and there is no CCTV. Nobody knows what happened to Charlie that night. Three months later Orlando was found in almost the same spot. 19-year-old, Orlando Nyero, drowned a few hundred metres further down the same stretch of water. Orlando's brother, Sam Abui, was with him that night and said they had been celebrating a birthday in the city. "The police said it was an accident. It was a tragic accident," he said.
Manchester City Centre is a hot spot for tourists and party goers alike, there is also a huge student population close to the centre as Manchester has a number of colleges, universities and teaching hospitals. Thousands of people visit the city each day and the evenings are no exception. Yet step two streets away from the bright lights and you will find yourself in the city's seedy underbelly. The central gardens in Piccadilly are a very good example of this. Many years ago the gardens were a lovely place to be. I would often sit there and eat my lunch each day, as I worked in the city centre, but at night it was a place to be avoided. Drug pushers and drunks abound, and one street away you have the heart of the city's red light district. Now sadly you have to avoid the back streets and the gardens even in the daytime, the police are short handed and understaffed. There is no help out there on the streets other than your own. People are killed, raped and attacked on an almost daily basis.
Yet the City Council, the local newspaper and media will deny there is a problem, numerous times it has been stated there is not a problem in Manchester when it comes to crime. The men and women pulled from the canal are in there by choice, or due to bad judgement of their own. The powers that be refuse to admit there is a problem with 'date rape' drugs, yet hundreds of cases are handled by Greater Manchester police each year. In the past year alone two men have been arrested and jailed for this very crime.
Police have charged a man over the death of popular Northern Quarter chef Hiran Chauhan whose body was found wrapped in plastic in woodland close to Buile Hill Park in Salford shortly before 8.10am on Tuesday 9 July 2019. Police descended on a small patch of woodland close to Buile Hill Park at around 8:10 am 9/7/20 after they were alerted to a body having been found by school children which appeared to be wrapped in plastic. The children were heading to school for morning lessons at the nearby Buile Hill Academy when the grisly discovery was made.

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Hiran had last been seen making his way home from work in Manchester on the 2nd of July, he later was seen exiting a tram at Langworthy at around 11:31pm but tragically he never made it to his room in a rented house he shared with others. Neil Cuckson (16/10/1987) of Eccles Old Road in Salford has been charged with Administering a Noxious Substance, Supplying class A and class C controlled drugs, Perverting the Course of Justice and Preventing Lawful Burial and will appear at Manchester Crown Court, Crown Square on Thursday December 19 2019.
Reynhard Sinaga: 'Evil sexual predator' jailed for life for 159 attacks - Reynhard Sinaga was found guilty of luring 48 men from outside Manchester clubs to his flat, where he drugged and assaulted them - filming the attacks. Police say they have evidence Sinaga, 36, who is being named for the first time, targeted at least 190 victims. The Crown Prosecution Service (CPS) said Sinaga was "the most prolific rapist in British legal history". The judge ruled his life sentence must include a minimum of 30 years in jail. The postgraduate student was already serving life, with a minimum term of 20 years, for the offences he was convicted of in two earlier trials, which took place in summer 2018 and last spring.
Detectives say they have been unable to identify a further 70 victims and are now appealing for anyone who believes they may have been abused by Sinaga to come forward. At the hearing, Judge Suzanne Goddard QC said Sinaga was "an evil serial predator who has preyed upon young men" who wanted "nothing more than a good night out with their friends". "In my judgment you are a highly dangerous, cunning and deceitful individual who will never be safe to be released," she said - adding that the decision to release prisoners is made by the Parole Board.

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Sinaga would wait for men leaving nightclubs and bars before leading them to his flat in Montana House, Princess Street, often with the offer of somewhere to have a drink or call a taxi. He drugged his victims before assaulting them while they were unconscious. When the victims woke up many of them had no memory of what had happened. The student, who denied the charges, had claimed all the activity was consensual and that each man had agreed to being filmed while pretending to be asleep - a defence described by the judge as "ludicrous".
At an earlier sentencing, the judge said she was sure that Sinaga had used a form of date rape drug such as GHB. The rapist was caught in June 2017 when one victim, who regained consciousness while being assaulted, fought Sinaga off and called the police. Assistant Chief Constable Mabbs Hussain said the true extent of Sinaga's offending would probably never be known. "We suspect he's offended over a period of 10 years," he said. "The information and evidence we are going from is largely from trophies that he's collected from the victims of his crimes." Investigators traced dozens of victims from the videos using clues found in Sinaga's Manchester flat, such as stolen phones, ID cards and watches.
The flat mentioned in the article was situated ideally for Sinaga, in fact it was on canal street itself, his balcony overlooked the canal. Was he responsible for any of the mystery deaths, it would be easy to quietly push somebody from your first floor level into the canal below. Or to slip out of the building with a rug or suitcase in the dead of night and rid yourself of a problem. Yet the police state there is no connection between Sinaga and any of the 'Pushers' suspected victims. It would have been very easy for him to pick up lone males and offer his help. Come back to mine, phone a taxi and we can have a drink while you wait, was probably said a hundred times by Sinaga. How many other Sinaga’s are out there, unknown? How many have there been before him, predatory males, who use Manchester centre as their dumping ground?
I grew up in Manchester in the 70’s and 80’s. I was a young lass when the Yorkshire ripper cases started to be reported. I remember another level of fear each time a new body was recovered. I remember curfews for women and men questioned by police because they had a Northern accent or drove for a living. I remember the tape of Wearside Jack being played in school assemblies and on the TV at home. I remember our neighbour being murdered around that time, she was coming home from the pub. She was so badly disfigured and abused by her murderer the police counted her as a Ripper victim until her killer was caught. And I remember the snide remarks of “well she put herself in that position” “if she had been home seeing to her husband this would not have happened” I was so shocked by these comments they still sit with me. And yet 40 yrs on it's still a popular public opinion.
I highly doubt the lady in question set out that night intending to be cruelly killed, disemboweled and left for dead on scrap land within feet of her own front door. Back then the ladies would work all week and on a saturday, with their best frock on and hair newly set and ready they would go to bingo or down to the local pub or club, for a few port and lemons and a natter with their friends. Pubs shut at 10.30pm then. Back home with a chippy supper and hopes of a lie in tomorrow morning were probably the last actions and thoughts she had. She was somebody's Mum, sister, daughter and wife, an aunt and a niece and probably someone's best friend. And because she joined her friends from the mill or factory for a drink she deserved what came her way. That's shocking, but what shocks me more is 40 years later we utter the same words. “If he was at home this wouldn't have happened” “why put yourself in that position” has been said about every one of the missing males found in the Canal. And they are someone’s son, father, brother, uncle and nephew, they had mates they went to the gym with, or played footy with as kids. Ordinary working class lads letting their hair down and having a good time, before it's back to work on Monday morning. We all did this and still do, in towns and cities across the UK. Getting spruced up and meeting your mates after working all week was the norm. I remember hundreds of times I rushed back home on payday to get ready to go out when I was young, free and single. I have attended 18th’s, 21st’s, Hen do’s, Birthdays in the pubs and clubs. And made it home safe and sound each time. I am one of the lucky ones. see part 2
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2020.09.21 00:19 bluecoatkarma More NR200P content

More NR200P content
Since there are so many builds on this subreddit in this case already, my focus is going to be some quirks/tricks I discovered re: cable routing, which I've learned is my new passion.
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First time building an SFFPC. Preordered on July 14th (I think this was the day it was put on Amazon?), so the wait was a bit longer than I expected... but I really can't complain, since I think many others in the U.S. still haven't received any updates. Amazon sent me an email asking to confirm I was still interested about a week ago, then gave me an estimated ship date of October 17th a few days later... and then the case was delivered yesterday.
Parts
CPU Ryzen 3600
Cooler I forget the name - whatever comes with the non-X 3600
Motherboard Gigabyte B550I Aorus Pro AX Mini ITX
Memory 16GB Team Dark 3200 / CL14
Storage 500GB Western Digital Black NVME (OS, files)
1TB Western Digital Blue SN550 NVME (games)
GPU EVGA 1080 SC2
Case Cooler Master NR200P
PSU Corsair 600W platinum
Build Notes I haven't built an SFFPC before, but this was the easiest time I've had building a PC (having done two different ATX builds before). I'd say that was 10% because this case provides such easy access by allowing you to remove all panels, 10% because the screws aren't overtightened (maybe that's just an NZXT thing?), and 80% because I went NVME-only. That said, I also spent probably twice as long on this as on my previous builds due to taking cable management seriously.
I saw others mention you can route the 8-pin behind the motherboard tray. I haven't seen anyone mention the 24-pin in that context however: I was able to route it back there and still close the panel. With the cables that come with this PSU, however, it's hard to actually plug in the 8-pin with this routing, and impossible to plug in the 24-pin -- it's just too short. I'm considering getting a longer, custom 24-pin just because I think a short, diagonal splash of color coming down from the top right would look cool. (Honestly, the 8-pin could be done better if it were longer, too.)
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Another thing I haven't seen mentioned: there's about an inch-long cutout (with rounded-over metal edges!) on each side of the PSU bracket. Since the PSU is centered within the bracket and therefore doesn't sit flush against the motherboard tray, things can be routed through that gap. With this motherboard, the only connection that lines up with this gap is the front panel connector, but with other motherboards you might be able to do a fan header or SATA this way. Another nice thing about the space around the PSU within the bracket is that you can use all those holes not just for their intended drive- or reservoir-mounting function, but for zip tie attachments.
Fans / Thermals I haven't done any proper benchmarking, but I've played games in a few different setups because I knew what my temps were in those games. After running this thing effectively as a test bench for a few months, I have to say it was a huge shock how much hotter everything was when put back in a case: open air, my CPU would max at about 72, but I haven't done better than 84 inside the case. (Note: I do have high ambient temps / no AC in my apartment - with the weird boost behavior of the 3600, I often idle in the mid 50s.) Interestingly, that 84 degree max was achieved with just having the two top-mounted fans as exhausts; any layout where I've added an intake, it actually made things hottelouder, so my guess is that this is disrupting the airflow in a way that negatively impacts the lil stock CPU cooler, and/or reducing the negative pressure, with the same result.
My old CPU/cooling setup was a 4790K with a Dark Rock 3 strapped to it (single-tower 140mm cooler) in a mid tower case, so I think I may have been a bit spoiled. I was holding off on buying a proper CPU cooler because it wasn't very clear if I'd actually ever manage to get this case, so I think now is the time. But I had been thinking about doing something like a Noctua L9A, since it's relatively cheap and I can see this SFF disease getting more serious (i.e. downsizing in the future.) With this noise/these temps, I'm now thinking I may have to go big.
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2020.09.20 20:06 Samara_Buckley_Derby [The Beginning of the End] [Derby]- Chapter 12: The Pertoff Family Vacation

Summary: Fighting immortals is a sweetheart job for someone obsessed with the afterlife. Dying on the job, however, is cutting it too close. However, Julian's curiosity with the great beyond pushes him a little too far, back to the land of the living and cursed with a newly damned soul, just like the immortals he's sworn to fight...
First chapter --- Previous chapter here!! --- Next chapter
Cover art --- Rate me on Royal Road!
Espionage may as well have been Matti’s middle name for how well he took to it. It wasn’t, of course, his middle name. That dubious honor went to Casimir, probably the name of someone important in his family, which he’d have learned if he’d had ever thought to grill his parents. He hadn’t though, not in the sixteen years he’d lived under their roof, nor in the following four years of school. And he certainly hadn’t asked when he started sniper school nor since officially enlisting. He hadn’t spoken to them since. Too dangerous.
And dangerous was how Matti liked it. He was yet to have a real reason to believe his life was in danger and until he felt that, he had no problem pushing the envelope.
Which is why he was perched in the back of a helicopter heading out to Munich on a mission intended to intercept one of the deadliest immortals at an active civilian airport with nearly two dozen soldiers, some of whom were legally dead, while most were shoot-on-sight traitors.
Could it get any better?
“Find anything, Matti?” a cool voice asked in his ear.
“Clear for now, Pooja.” He gave the Colonel a reassuring smile and she nodded, returning to the cockpit. Last names had never suited him and as a renegade, he wasn’t obligated to use them. It was easier to empathize with an Amy or Markus than with a Brown or Khan. Knowing the name they heard from friends and family humanized them and that was important when lives were on the line.
They usually just thought he was being cocky and rude and he had no need to dispel that theory because, as a renegade, they were going to think he was an arrogant prick anyway. It wasn’t even really a lie, so…
The helicopter they all sat in—Matti, Julian, Pooja and her two operatives, Kyline, and her squad—was borrowed from Omicron HQ. No way could Schmidtt’s usual helicopter fit the nearly two dozen agents, so Pooja had pulled some strings. There was enough room to comfortably walk around, especially with the others mostly strapped in, a fact that Matti gladly took advantage of, roaming from window to window, popping up his binoculars to scan for any aircraft that might be flying under the radar.
He’d been disappointed so far.
In between his little lookout sessions, he’d make small talk with various operatives. Pooja didn’t like chatting when on a mission, Kyline hated his guts, and the other scientists he usually hung out with were, for obvious reasons, not here, so ‘various operatives’ mostly meant Julian.
“Gotta admit, when you said you had some questions for me, I wasn’t expecting this,” Julian said after Matti’s third round.
“Am I boring you?” Matti tilted his head.
Julian laughed, always a good sign. “No. But unless this is some weird renegade interrogation tactic, I don’t know why you care about my favorite breakfast food.”
Matti gave him a cool look. “I’ve watched you very carefully since joining the Fleursurgents. I need to make sure your answers align with what I’ve seen.” It was a terribly blatant lie, but not one Matti really cared about guarding. If Julian chose to see through it, good on him. Reality was, Matti just liked getting to know his charges.
Julian squinted. “Fleursurgents?”
“Come on. Fleur Insurgents is a mouthful and there are a ton of repeated syllable sounds there. It’s only natural that you should work a portmanteau in there. Saves time.”
“Lotta big words from someone with a STEM degree. Maybe you should have gone into linguistics.” Julian grinned, and unless it was Matti’s imagination, seemed to relax a bit.
Matti lifted a shoulder. “Linguistics wouldn’t have gotten me a job here. Besides, I didn’t go to an English speaking school.”
“Clearly, or you’d have caught the better portmanteau: Infleurgents.”
This took Matti aback quite a bit, because Julian was absolutely correct. That one was far superior. “I take my hat off to you. We’re now the Infleurgents. Clearly your English skills make mine look paltry.”
“Well, it was my first language.” He shifted in his seat, probably trying to make the helicopter seat feel more comfortable. “You said a linguistics degree wouldn’t have gotten you a job here. Did you know about this place when starting college?”
There were a few options for how an AngelThana operative might have gotten involved in the organization. A bulk of the scientists were poached from the public facing front: a nanotech organization that privately manufactured weapons and also somehow did some work with biotech. It was often scrutinized for guzzling research money and turning out rather few results but that was kind of the point of a public facing front. It’s just that the public didn’t know that. Hence ‘front’.
Then there were military poaches, outstanding soldiers who were approached at the conclusion of their official government military contracts. Outside of these poached soldiers, AngelThana rarely allowed for transfers to military units if the employee hadn’t been with the company for a minimum of three years, which explained why the minimum age of active combatants was 21 and not most military’s standard 18.
Then there were the nuts. AngelThana sent representatives out to anyone who found out about the immortals organically, whether from personal experience or obsessive web research. That’s how Matti got involved. He’d spent the greater part of his childhood chasing down conspiracies online because that’s about all there was to do in a northern European village, population: twelve, where the sun came up twice a year. He’d discovered some paper trails and various web footage that showed the same few people involved in a host of different terrorist attacks across the globe, a conspiracy he was surprised no one else pointed out.
It turned out no one pointed it out because AngelThana scrubbed the internet from all information of the immortals, with a rather impressive tech division. This was originally what they scouted him for until pretty much everyone realized he was a crap hacker. By that point, he’d requested a transfer to sniper school and anyone involved agreed it was for the best.
Most of the people on the helicopter had been in the second boat, sniped from their own government’s military. On the books, they were ‘security’ officers.
Julian was, as with most scientists, from the first group. He’d been scouted because of his academic work and pressured into taking the job with AngelThana.
“My official transfer to the internal department was about a month into my onboarding on the face department.” Julian had that glint in his eyes that the PhDs always got when they were about to launch into a lecture, and Matti braced himself. “The day they pulled me in and explained that honest to god immortals existed, well I thought I’d gone crazy.”
“Really? You didn’t think they had?”
Julian shook his head. “No! I’d always suspected so when my theories were confirmed, my mind was blown. It was like falling into a dream I’d had.”
“Lapinksy! Back on your post. You’ve had weeks to make idle chit chat. This is not the time.” Pooja’s scolding turned all the heads in the chopper to Matti, who smiled back at her, jumping to his feet in a solute.
“Copy that, Colonel.” There would also be time for idle chit chat later, so he had no qualms with resuming his watch.
“Alright we’re approaching our drop point,” Pooja announced, some few, uneventful hours later. “We’re officially on non-essential cargo pickup, so keep that in mind. Grace, prep your unit, but I want them down and out of sight until signaled.”
Kyline saluted in acknowledgement, her face rigid.
“The cargo pickup is scheduled to happen at eight hundred hours, so we’re here plenty early and should be able to get all of you off before they load us up.” Pooja began walking up and down the aisle of the ship, making eye contact with every single person on board. “I’ll be staying on board to handle the loading, with Schmidtt and Lapinksy. You’ll take your orders from the Sergeant and in the case of her incapacitation, your chain of command will fall to Agent Xing, Agent Jha, field medic LeDuc…” The chain of command was something they’d all been briefed on but redundancy may as well be synonymous with procedure because whenever someone said ‘follow the proper process’ it meant they wanted to you use enough fallbacks and extraneous measures that you probably could have accomplished three times your goal if you’d just checked something once or twice.
But for all their traitorous nature, the Infleurgents still followed their god damned processes to a T. Whatever. Matti didn’t technically need to know who to listen to but unfortunately for his ego, the chain of command usually made too much sense to ignore, so he rarely did.
The helicopter touched down at a tiny regional airport in the early hours of the morning, probably close to five hundred hours, as light as a feather per Schmidtt’s usual. He radioed in their arrival to the incognito convoy that was bringing whatever equipment Pooja had maneuvered into being their ‘target’. They reported that they were still about two hours out, which Schmidtt confirmed on radar scans.
“Copy that, we’ll be waiting.” Then Pooja looked up at Matti. “Give us a visual perimeter, make sure the area is clear of personnel or civilians.” She turned to Kyline. “At Lapinsky’s signal, take your men to the far parking lot. The convoy was instructed to leave one truck behind so that we could unload our cargo. Which…” She waved a hand at the soldiers, “is all of you. So stay out of sight until Grace gives the command. Understood?”
A host of salutes confirmed comprehension. Matti eyed Pooja and tossed her a slightly more casual salute before slipping into the night.
For once, the lack of complications wasn’t boring. The presence of civilians would have dramatically slowed down the offloading, suspicions from the convoy would have just caused drama, and if any of Kyline’s soldiers had been spotted, it would have really been disastrous.
All told, Pooja’s plan went without a hitch and soon Schmidt was flying away with whatever cargo they’d used as an excuse to hide their illicit actions. Matti sat in the back of the remaining convoy truck, squished with the others. These things were supposed to seat a dozen. While Matti, Julian, Xing Luli, the Iota agent, were slim enough to count for half a person, they simply had too many people on board for the drive to be comfortable. But comfort wasn’t a requisite so no one complained about being cramped too much.
The real issue was the lack of space to put on their disguises. AngelThana lacked the resources to intensely scrutinize every security cam feed on the planet to scan for faces that matched certain criteria. So the group didn’t have to worry too much about being spotted by the sophisticated software needed to match their specific face shapes and retina scans. But that didn’t mean they could slack off. They’d still need to play dress up to fool any AngelThana member who happened to be casually watching the MUC feeds in their downtime.
There were precious few people on board who knew enough about hair and makeup to make a convincing change to faces, so each agent had to wait quite a bit for their turn. Something to change complexion, darken or bright eyes, maybe thicken the look of facial hair.
“Do me dirty,” Matti said as he pushed past Private Amelie Silva for his turn. He scrunched his eyes closed in preparation for the assault on his face.
“Don’t do that with your eyes,” Pooja said, as he heard her swishing around some bottle of something probably wet and sticky. “It’ll make it uneven.” Pooja, along with Henri LaForge and Edmund Howard, was one of the only confident enough with her makeup skills to do anything convincing on the soldiers. “Hold still.” A bright light blasted his eyelids as another of the soldiers shone a flashlight at him.
“We should have brought Sofia,” Matti said, trying hard not to move his mouth. “She could make every guy in here a girl and vice versa.”
“Matti keep your mouth shut or you’re going to look like more of a mess than you normally do.” After a far too long period of getting paint slathered and smeared on his face, his nails and hands squished, his hair pulled tight and hidden under a wig, Pooja thrust an armful of clothes in his hands. “What do you think?”
The question was a little too amused for Matti’s liking and he cracked an eyelid to see the private holding the flashlight was openly smirking.
“He did say he wanted to be a girl. Think you did a mighty good job there, Colonel.”
The other eyelid snapped open. “I need a mirror. Now.”
Pooja held up one and Matti stared at himself. He wasn’t a girl, probably. Not technically. But he also saw where the private was coming from. “Pooja, you know ‘scene’ hasn’t been in since the early 2000s, right?” He twisted one of the silky, unnaturally platinum locks around a finger.
“We’re active members.” She shooed him to the side to start her next victim. “So our looks need to be a bit more dramatically changed. Us and Blake. If you’re going heavy makeup, you have to make it look intentional. That’s why you have the eyeliner. You’re now Alexi Petroff, 16 years old, so you’ve got to look like it.”
“Great. Back to being an edgy teen.” He didn’t really mind the look but it was far from comfortable. “What dramatic bit are you doing?”
“Inaya Hasmi, 34, traveling with my husband Tahir.” She pointed a bit away where Vikas Jha, the other Iota agent, was getting minimal makeup work done. “I’ll have a bit of work done but most of my face will be hidden.”
“Lucky. Would be nice if we all could just go the religious veil route.” Matti tapped at his face to see if his makeup had dried.
Pooja cocked an eyebrow. “Would have made us all the more likely to be stopped by airport security. Don’t need to increase those odds. Alright, you’re done Shanti.”
“Fucking most disgusting thing I ever got on my face,” he grumbled.
“Shut up, Shanti,” Matti said, almost absentmindedly. The private needled him with a glare before moving on.
“We kind of switched colors,” Julian remarked as he settled down next to Matti. The previously sandy haired man now had cropped dark crew cut, so convincing that Matti couldn’t imagine how his real hair had fit under it. His previously green eyes were now blue, much like how Matti’s blue had changed to green.
“Who did yours?” Matti asked.
“LaForge. Man did theatre through his entire education. I guess it shows but god my head feels like it’s about to explode.” Julian’s hand hovered near his scalp as if itching to itch it.
“Not a finger!” shouted LaForge from about eight feet away where he was twisting Luli’s hair into a tight ponytail. “Or I’ll cut it off.”
“Would he get back?” asked another private.
Julian’s body sagged as his hand dropped. “Here they go.”
The questions, jokes, and jabs flowed through the truck, lightening up the mood at the expense of Julian’s.
“You’re not a fan?” Matti asked. “You can’t deny, there are some good questions in there.”
“Yeah but they don’t want answers, they just want to snicker.” Julian sighed, crossing his arms. “But I’m starting to learn to tune it out.”
Even Matti had to admit that, after two more hours of the soldiers coming up with increasingly stupid puns, it had gotten old. He fiddled with his rifle, knowing that it would soon be locked in a very special crate, the kind that AngelThana routinely used to smuggle weapons through airports, past border patrols, and into government events. Matti didn’t like departing with his beloved rifle but there would be no keeping it on him.
The sun had long risen now as the truck pulled into a long term parking lot, advertised as being ‘mere kilometers from MUC!’ From there, the group split into teams, each with their own mission plans.
Pooja took Vikas, her husband, and the two headed the short walk to the public transport. Six of the soldiers, all dressed as spring breakers, flooded to the closest rental car place.
Matti checked his ID and the instructions on his phone giving him a rundown of Alexi Pertoff.
“I’m traveling with my father and girlfriend, huh? Haven’t had one of those in a while.” He looked up at the remaining operatives. Shanti and Henri were brothers, Amelie and Edmund were also dating. A few others were traveling solo. Then his eyes fell on Luli, Pooja’s Iota agent. She fixed him with a long once over.
“We’re dating?” she asked. In all fairness, she probably wasn’t much older than he was and with the high ponytail with a red streak in it, the loose bangs around her face, and too much eye makeup, she could absolutely pass for 17 or 18.
“I guess so. Which just leaves… dad.” He grinned as Julian looked down at his ID.
“Ah. Pieter Pertoff. 38” He looked up at the two agents as the remaining operatives sped off on their predetermined methods of transportation. “Never thought much of having kids…”
“God I must be like, the biggest disappointment to you.” Matti examined his nails, which were all black except for a red nail on each middle finger. Then he looked up at Julian’s tight crew cut and the lines on his face, artfully exaggerated by LaForge’s handiwork.
Luli laughed at the start contrast that couldn’t hide enough of a similarity between the two men to hint at their relation. “Alright then, team,” she said. “Let’s get our car and get to the airport. We’ve got an invasion to stop.”
Chapter 12
Julian could already tell that Matti and Luli were amused at his reaction but he couldn’t help being more than a little apprehensive about playing a father role to the sniper. The two agents shared looks in the back seat of the rental car Julian was driving.
“Do you think I need an accent? It’s Russian, right? I can try a— hold up.” Julian cleared his throat and centered himself, trying his best to adopt the accent of one of the Russian agents. “Ok, how’s this?”
“God no. Please no.” Matti exchanged another look with Luli. Julian hadn’t dealt much with the agent since they’d first flown to Fleur, an experience Julian wanted to leave far behind him, but she was a lot more pleasant when she wasn’t holding a gun to his head.
“You’ll blow our cover immediately.” Her voice, meanwhile, had shifted from its previously Chinese accent to a completely American accent. “Keep your American accent. In case you haven’t noticed, both our passports are American. His is Russian. You immigrated to the states young and lived there your whole life. You met your wife, a Russian woman, but after your relationship went poorly, she took the kid and moved back to Russia. She sends him over to you for summers and other various breaks. It was during one such visit that he met me.”
“The three of us are spending holiday in Russia,” Matti said. “After the trip, Luli and I are staying with my mom in Moscow.”
It took Julian a moment to internalize this. “Why wasn’t I told any of this?”
“It’s in your briefing.” Matti pointed to his phone. “You probably didn’t scroll. Don’t worry, most people actually don’t ask about your backstory.”
“Yeah but in case—”
“Look at it this way,” Luli said. “Lapinsky and I are far more likely to be given side eyes or comments. This was intentional, to draw attention from you.”
“Just be a disappointed father.” Matti glanced at his phone for another moment before tapping a few buttons. “Ok, now, names. I need you to recite them, learn them by heart.”
It was kind of weird taking orders from someone who was supposed to be his son. The two were probably only ten years apart in age. Luli was even closer, probably less than five years younger than him.
“Ok. Ok, you’re Alexi. She’s Tara. Alexi and Tara. Alexi Petroff and Tara Wang.”
“Mr. Pertoff? Mr. Pertoff, Alexi says it’s ok if we get Starbucks. We’ll be right back.”
“Mom says it’s ok if I get snakebites and you said I could get anything I wanted for my 17th birthday if it was under 50 dollars. I know this one place that does them for cheap and she’s ok with it.”
The two went back and forth, with Julian’s knuckles getting whiter on the steering wheel each time one added a new line to their newfound family’s canon.
“I’m uh, just not gonna say much, ok kids?”
The two grinned back at him in the rearview mirror, clearly very into their roles.
“Whatever dad.”
~~~
They spent the remaining half hour of their trip going over all the signals that he’d have to remember. It didn’t sound half bad while they were driving, chatting lightly about the operation, but the minute they stepped from the car and entered the airport, the giggles stopped. Alexi and Tara were apparently the brooding type of teens who didn’t say much but stayed weirdly entwined with each other. Julian was ok with that. His palms were already damp and he was going to probably give away his nerves when he had to raise his hands during security.
A million ‘what ifs’ flashed through his head as the three clunked through security. Previously Julian had been primarily in hot water just with AngelThana but with this little stunt he also marked himself as a legitimate felon.
Yet they cruised through without a hitch, not even when examining their various backpacks or cases of randomly assorted goods. Julian’s nerves were hopefully explained by the outlandish appearance of his traveling companions. No crew-cut sporting dad wanted to be seen in public with his offspring looking so… alternative.
As the three made it to their gate, Julian’s mind immediately jumped to the others. After all, there were six groups that had to make it through without any suspicion. Any one of them getting caught could spell disaster for the whole operation, casting unneeded attention on the whole area. Not only would local authorities get involved, but AngelThana’s watchful eye might fall on them. Even worse, Lady Helga would likely abandon her efforts, leaving them no closer to apprehending her and now completely in the dark about her next plans.
It had to go without a hitch.
“I need to pee.” There was a distinct whine to her voice and Julian was struck with how easy it was to remember that the woman pulling a dramatic pout with heavy lipstick was a grown adult who had killed and probably watched her fellow agents die. “Where’s the closest bathroom?”
This was a signal and Julian grunted, getting to his feet. “Should probably all go.” Every word in Julian’s mouth felt unbelievably forced. He scrutinized every sentence. Why would a father want to accompany his son and son’s girlfriend to the bathroom? Was that weird? Creepy? Did it make sense at all?
The casual shrugs and eyerolls from his charges smoothed over his rocky sentence but he still felt the eyes of the airport on him as they strolled down the hallway to the restrooms.
“Take your time,” Luli said before disappearing into the ladies’ room.
The mens’ room was, thankfully, empty.
“No cameras,” Matti said, after doing a thorough search. “I’m splitting off soon, once I get my toys. If you see me, something’s gone wrong.” He grinned and Julian had no doubt that the sniper couldn’t picture a world where something had gone wrong. “Tara will stick with you, so continue to take your lead from her.”
Julian took the momentary privacy to let out a long breath and shake out his hands. “I hate this.”
“I, on the other hand, love it.” Matti was peering at himself in the mirror, eyes glinting over the various changes in his appearance. “You’ll have to get used to it.”
“I’d rather not have to do this again,” he muttered, staring at his face next to Matti’s. It was a lot greyer than the renegade’s.
“We’re not getting more operatives, so anymore injured or lost, and your attendance will be mandatory.”
Julian shook his head. “If I get caught in one of those things, I’ll get trapped in limbo for god knows how long. I’m not risking that.”
“Oh yes, comparatively the rest of us have nothing to risk.” Matti looked at Julian’s reflection, eyes unexpectedly hard. “None of us want to die. We’re not disposable grunts or whatever narrative you’ve constructed in your head. Any one of Kyline’s soldiers would take a bullet to save you from capture but just remember, they’re losing more from that than you. Their sacrifice is because you’re of more strategic value but don’t think for a minute that you’ve got more intrinsic value.” Then the look vanished, replaced by a casual smile. “Humanize your teammates. Keeps people alive.” He glanced at his watch. “Oh good, Tara’s almost here.”
Julian, briefly forgetting who Tara was, stared at Matti blankly in the mirror for another second before the younger man rolled his eyes and headed for the door.
“Right. Tara.” The scolding had hit him from left field but it was a valid point and Julian felt a little sick at how self centered he’d gotten. Military operations weren’t fun in the slightest. “She’s coming in here—”
His question was truncated by the door bursting open. A woman entered, pushing a cleaning cart. She turned, slapping down a ‘cleaning, don’t enter’ sign, before shutting the door behind her.
It took the woman sliding open the cart and unloading a pistol for herself, a pistol and sniper rifle for Matti, and thrusting a pistol into Julian’s hands for him to recognize Luli.
“I didn’t realize you’d be changing,” he said, still staring at the gun.
“Take your weapon. Lapinsky did say I’d be bringing the weapons, yes?” She glared at the sniper for his lack of communications before pulling out a number of guns, including one of the venojets Julian recognized from Sofia’s lab.
“Thought it was obvious.” Matti wasn’t paying them much mind as his fingers danced over his rifle, before snapping off a few components to fit it in his backpack. “MY apologies, Luli.”
Luli seemed to think better of scolding him. “Just take this… dart gun thing and get into position.”
He saluted. “Copy that Specialist.” He looked at Julian, that serious look back in his eyes. “You’re on civilian protection duty. Remember that.”
Then he slung the bag over his shoulder and disappeared from the bathroom.
Luli pulled out a spray bottle. “Alright, give me a second to clean a bit. Make it look convincing. You know how to hide that thing—Blake! Point it at the ground!”
Julian fumbled the gun before pointing it down. Trigger control was a lot easier to forget than he’d thought.
“Uh, just like, in my waistband?”
She sighed. “Let me finish getting the mirrors. Just don’t kill anyone while I’m at it.”
Soon the room was filled with the acrid scent of cleaners and Luli put back the chemicals.
“Here, change out your clothes. Careful not to dislodge your hair.” Her own transformation had been dramatic: makeup gone, hair now in a bun that hid the red streak, she could have been a different person.
Julian felt like his own disguise was not as effective. He still looked like Pieter Petroff but in a janitor’s outfit. It wasn’t until Luli plopped a hat on his head that he felt better.
“Alright, we’re on bathroom duty,” she said. “We’ve got four more to hit before everyone is armed. Ready?”
What followed was probably the most fun he’d had on the whole operation. No one looked twice at the two of them as they coasted down the hall with their big cleaning cart. They slipped into the first bathroom, halfway down the hall, where Shanti and LaForge were shooting the shit.
They both jumped to attention and Julian and Luli burst in, bearing gifts. Both rewarded the pair with face splitting grins as they received their gifts.
“Felt naked without this,” LaForge said, holstering his.
“Ew, not something anyone wants to see.”
“Shut up, Shanti.” This one surprisingly came from Luli, who had a wry grin on her face. “Now get to your positions and radio in the Colonel when you get there.”
They both saluted. “Copy that Specialist.”
The next bathroom was a little harder cause the spring breakers crowd was coed. Nisslon and Bruni were both in the women’s room, which Julian and Luli hit first, only to find it occupied with more than just the soldiers.
An older woman toting a six year old girl was loudly discussing Bruni’s piercing.
“Ma’am—” the private started, but the woman wasn’t having too much of it.
“And you’ve got the nerve to tell me and my child to leave when she has to go potty. You, looking like that.” She gestured at Bruni.
Nisslon, who wasn’t known for her patience, was looking about ready to go when Luli cleared her throat.
“Well you’re all going to have to continue this at a different restroom because this one is closed for cleaning.” The four paused mid argument and turned to Luli. Julian could see both soldiers’ eyes scan over her, puzzlement creasing their brows. Then Bruni’s eyes landed on Julian and she rolled them hard.
“Eurgh. Fine. Let’s just go to the one by the fucking gate,” Nisslon said.
“My child!” shrieked the woman.
“Mommy I don’t have to go potty. Can we go on the plane now?”
Julian watched as the four left, each in a different state of annoyance. Luli watched them leave before sighing.
“Clear the restrooms. How hard is it to clear the restrooms?” She massaged her temples for a moment before pulling out her spray bottle and dousing the room in a lethal amount of cleaner.
“Why are you doing that?” Julian asked, coughing.
“Gotta make it look like we were here.” She emptied what looked like an entire container of bleach into one of the toilets. “Hate cleaning bathrooms. Anything but bathrooms. Haven’t cleaned one since I was seven.”
Julian wanted to offer his assistance but he was afraid to get in her way. Not to mention, he didn’t want to mess up his hair or makeup.
It took Luli another five minutes to make the room look, well, not clean, but maybe cleaned. Once they made it to the men’s restroom, the weapons drop went smoother.
“Took your sweet time,” Howard grumbled as he loaded up his guns.
“You can bring that up with Nilsson and Bruni.” Luli shoved some extra guns into his hands. ”Those are theirs.”
“They got caught up with a mom who wouldn’t leave,” Julian said, trying to provide some context. “So we just kinda kicked them all out. They’re at the bathroom by the gate.”
“Copy that, zombie.”
Julian pulled a face but didn’t say anymore as the four soldiers filed from the room.
The other drops went more smoothly. At one point Luli even trusted Julian to drop the guns off with Grace.
“I need to take a call. Ditch those with the Sergeant and meet me at the bathroom by Gate A8.”
She wasn’t supposed to have left him but he was confident in his ability to pull off the task. He knocked twice on the women’s restroom door.
“In here!” He could recognize the dulcet tones of the Sergeant anywhere so he cleared his throat and shouted back.
“Maintenance! Uh, cleaning, rather.” Off to a brilliant start but there was no time to kick himself. Instead he pushed the cart in, slapped down the sign, and wheeled around to face a tense looking Grace. Her disguised covered her shockingly blond hair with a brown wig and her scars were masterfully hidden.
“Just you?” she asked. “Where’s… Tara?”
“I think cleaning lady is Milly. Tara was my son’s girlfriend.”
She nodded and a corner of her lip lifted in a smile. “You following along fine?”
“Yeah I think so! We had some trouble with two of the spring breakers. Couldn’t get the civies out of the restroom so we had to improvise.”
She bit back a smile for about a half second before laughing. “Damn kid, we really got our top agent out there.” Then she looked over his shoulder. “Where is Milly?”
“She had to take a call.” Her look worried him for a second and he looked over his shoulder, as if also expecting to see Luli. “Is that weird?”
Grace shook her head as she set to work pulling her guns out of the cart. “Just means the Colonel’s got more shit to chat about than she can text. Probably got eyes on Von Martwitz.” A grin spread across her face, either at the idea of facing down the immortal or at the large gun she’d unsheathed from the cart. “Hello again, girl.”
Julian wasn’t really a pacifist but he didn’t like how much the soldiers loved their pet guns. It shouldn’t bother him but when he looked at the guns, he felt uneasy, knowing that every single one of them had killed a human being. It seemed downright ominous to dote on something that had killed so much.
“Right. So does that mean we’re pressed for time?”
Grace looked at him. “Honestly, couldn’t tell you. I’d ask Luli when you get outside.”
“Right. Alright.” He hovered, wanting to say more. The idea that Lady Helga could be arriving any minute made him suddenly realize how real this mission was. If it went ugly, there were a lot of people he might just never see again.
“You got that look on your face.”
He looked back at her, whatever look she’d referred to now replaced with a wry, if tired, smile. “You think this thing is gonna go sideways?”
“Mmm, no. I think it might be unsuccessful because of how much could go wrong, but it’s not going to end with everyone dying. Worst case scenario…” She looked back at her gun. “We just call Omicron and give them the head’s up.”
He nodded, still tense, so she put a hand on his shoulder. “I know I shouldn't worry,” he said but she shook her head.
“You’re not a soldier and you shouldn’t be here. So yeah, second combat situation in a few weeks for someone who should be in a lab or whatever, I get it.” Her eyes were that same earnest blue that burned when they got into a discussion about immortality and religion or when she was kicking his ass in training. “You’re handling it well. Trust the process.” She slung her gun over her back and pulled her long coat over it before striding to the door. “Oh, and Julian?”
“Hmm?” He looked over from his cart at her.
“Give ‘em hell if they do come for you. You know what it’s like.” With this, and final grin, she was out the door.
Will we get our first peek at the elusive Lady Helga next chapter? Or will Julian blow his cover? Find out later today!
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2020.09.20 18:11 nycgirlhere Don’t go on a date with a man with thinks paying for you is gold digging!

  1. You can afford your own meal at a much nicer restaurant with yourself and your friends so you don’t need him to pay for you, you are ALLOWING him the chance to show he is a generous person and impress you.
  2. You weed out a lot of LVM, “50/50” mindset men who just want to set the bar low so they can keep your expectations even lower.
  3. It’s okay to want what you want. You date someone who you ACTUALLY want to date. Yes, you! You don’t have to settle for that guy if you don’t want to because you’re happy to be single instead of dating a cheap dude.
  4. Being a cheap person bleeds into other areas of his life. If he makes the girl of his dreams/possible future wife pay half her bill, do you think he donates to charity with the money he saves? Do you think he buys you flowers or spends time planning dates? Do you think he spends his free time volunteering or making life better for you? Cheap date = cheap mindset.
  5. One meal doesn’t mean you’re a gold digger. If a man thinks that he doesn’t have gold or he wants you to be the pursuer and impress him.
  6. There are men out there who will happily take you out on a real date not “to walk/get coffee/drinks”.
  7. By raising the stakes for him to take you out, you increase the value in his eyes because you’re not someone who puts up with low investment dates.
  8. Just because someone does pay for you doesn’t mean they’re a HVM either so continue vetting just as strictly.
  9. If they pay for your meal it does not mean they deserve sex.
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2020.09.20 17:17 AceTheBot u/MvKal found the post

What do you think of this essay that estimates the factors involved in female mating preferences?
Part I
Few questions are as important as the following: what selection pressures are humans facing, and are they eugenic or dysgenic? In other words, are we evolving or devolving? Of central importance to this question is the practice of human reproduction: children are produced when a man fucks a woman. The genes that lead to fucking, therefore, are the genes that are being selected for. So what genes are these? Who gets laid?
It does not suffice to use anecdotes. Sure, they may be correct at the end of the day, but on the other hand they may not be. Therefore let us approach this topic scientifically; no dudebro philosophy about game and muscles and whatever else here. Besides, men are hardly unified on what they think their anecdotes signify: one hopeful man will say it’s all about game, while another pessimistic man will say it’s the face, yet another will say muscles, and another money, et cetera ad infinitum.
Let us phrase the question scientifically: what factors explain what proportion of that variance in male romantic success? This question implies that the club scene will not be analyzed. Women may choose differently for one night stands than they will for a reproductive partner, and most children are intended or at least with a monogamous partner in the age of birth control and abortion.
Looking into the scientific literature on this question is quite frustrating. Frankly, it’s quite bad and I have only been able to unearth a few studies that offer only hesitant, partial answers. Yet the available evidence does allow a few important facts to be clear, and with sufficient reasoning other facts can be inferred. Probably the best study relevant to the question was one published in 2017 that asked women to rate men based on a photo and one of three descriptions of three traits each that were intended to be highly desirable, desirable, or less desirable. The women gave ratings for physical attractiveness, behavioral desirability, and dating desirability. It was found using multiple linear regression analysis (MLR) that sr2 was 0.55 for physical attractiveness and .20 for personality rating on the average. This means those two ratings alone accounted for 75% of the variance in dating desirability scores and that physical attractiveness accounted for 55% of that variance by itself, or in other words it accounted for 55% of the variance after factoring out its covariance with personality score and so on for the personality score. One interesting thing to note is that they also asked the same thing to the mothers of the women and found that physical attractiveness accounts for about 33% of the variance and personality accounts for about 40% of the variance in regards to how much the mothers desires their daughter to date the given man. This means that in traditional days, it can be inferred, at least according to this study, that reputation mattered much more than looks.
And let me comment on the word I used in the last sentence: reputation. That is precisely what the women and mothers were rating. This is, in essence, a component of social status and not direct behavior or “game” ability, and this is further evidenced by the fact that the men were described using reputation words - “trustworthy”, not “interesting”, mature, not “easy to get along with”. They were described in ways that their community as a whole would think of them, not in ways that are specifically meant to bring to mind the way the man will treat the woman. So being generous, we can say that direct behavior might account for the missing variance and maybe a small part of the reputation variance, meaning it might be as high as 30% but no higher. On the other hand, it could still be conceivably as low as 0% based on this single study.
What do other studies show? One type of attraction study seems to indicate that attraction has little to do with direct behavior, or in other words the personality that the woman experiences. These studies typically simulate dating in a controlled fashion and ask the participants the degree to which they would like to go on another date with whoever they met. One study published in 1966 found “The correlation between liking of the date and evaluation of the date's physical attractiveness is .78 for male subjects and .69 for female subjects” (4). The subjects’ looks were rapidly rated by four random raters, meaning that it is unlikely that the ratings were inflated or deflated by personality. R2 for women, then, is about 0.5, which means that about 50% of the variance in female desire to see the male date again can be explained by the male’s physicality alone. This is obviously in line with the findings of the 2017 study, meaning that this result has been replicated half a century later. The 1966 study also gave personality tests to the subjects: masculinity correlated with the female wanting to see the male again at r = 0.12, extroversion at r = 0.10, good manners at r = .12, and “self-acceptance” (confidence) at r = .14. In other words, variance in being a super-wacky extrovert, having good manners, acting “masculine”, and being confident account for essentially none of the variance in if the male is wanted by the female again. The study concluded that out of the metrics they scored, only physical attraviness predicted the women wanting to see the men again.
Another study from 2009 essentially replicated this finding (6). This study had the participants fill out tests to measure personality and then had them participate in a speed-dating event where each male met ten females and vice versa. Physique was pre-rated by each researcher with high reliability (intercorrelation = 0.86). These pre-rated scores correlated at r=0.88 (r2 = 0.77) with the extent to which the female wanted to see the male again after the date. Men were allowed to seduce, display IDGAF and abundance attitudes, and generally mog for five minutes. Still, “interest in sport activities” (r = 0.48, r2 = 0.23), which probably covaries with the physique pre-ratings (as I will explain), and physique were the only predictive variables. Big 5 traits correlated at most at r = 0.26 but were not statistically significant (p < 5%). One interesting thing to note is that the sample consisted of college students with an average age of 19; Interest in sportsball might have functioned as a serious reflector of status since women generally cannot gauge status based on jobs and money when it comes to 19 year old college students yet. Fresh out of high school, they were likely still influenced by propaganda that designates the sportsball players as high-status and popular.
As far as I have found, these studies are the cream of the crop when it comes to those which attempt to estimate the factors that predict male romantic success. Despite the field being quite barren, conclusions can still be drawn considering all of the studies have more than adequate statistical power and each agrees with one another. Physical attractiveness matters the most: each study estimates its predictive power at at least half the variance. Status matters, but less than physique. Direct behavior, or personality, explains little to none of the variance. This does not mean that a 5/10 trainwreck, anxious autist couldn’t get more girls if he somehow improved his social skills, but it indicates that game doesn’t work or is at least extremely rare within the samples. It does show that more natural differences in personality traits, ranging from extroversion to confidence, matter very little. Given that much of game consists of essentially telling guys to be more extroverted and confident, these studies suggest that that aspect of game is bogus.
Based on these results, I predict that if I were to run my ideal experiment and find how much variance physique, direct behavior, and status explain, I would see about 60%, 5%, and 35% respectively. Let us then apply the knowledge of this educated estimation on a number of hypothetical cases. Case 1: a man who is 5’8” with a 50th percentile face and a typical, skinnyfat body shape. He is somewhat introverted and has a few close friends, and is in university. He comes to me for my sage-like wisdom and asks, “O, wise one, what shall acquireth me the womb?” There are only two questions to ask him: “are you autistic?” and “do you have social anxiety?”. When he answers no to both, I give him my knowledge: “do thou worketh out and build thy muscle, and go on and gaineth thou status. Then the womb shall be for thee.” If his direct behavior is not an absolute trainwreck, if he is not a terrible autist, then no amount of confidence-game will help him. He already has sufficient confidence: if he didn’t, the variance in direct behavior would explain more of the variance in romantic success because a large number of men would be capitalizing off this easy “biohack”. Women don’t like him because he’s an overall 4/10 physically and has no status because he has few friends, no fame, and no money. Approaching 100 random women will most likely net 99 to 100 rejections by his looks alone. The ugly girls that go on one date with him will friendzone him when they find out he doesn’t like sports and he has 2 friends. And so Case 1 goes on, gets ripped, and makes some more friends and some notoriety and finally he finds a woman. Case 2: a 6’2” man who has been working out for a year and has something to show for it, with an average to above average face, approaches and says, trembling, “What do I do? I have been following the advice you gave Case 1 for a year and still I have no girlfriend.” I ask my questions, and he responds, “I-I have a lot of confidence issues and a lot of social anxiety with women.” He makes no eye contact and his voice is monotone. I tell him, “you are the one who is so rare that you do not even register in the variance in direct behavior in my studies of wisdom. You need to cure your autism, learn to make eye contact and stop turning off girls who would otherwise be into you by physically trembling when you approach them.” Later that night, he bangs 3 girls from the club because he took Xannies to control his shaking and MDMA to cure his autism. Finally, case three: the ghost of Elliot Rodger comes up from hell and asks me why no girls wanted him. I say to him: “You are physically a 4/10. You are an extreme malet who is half asian AND you have no status and who knows how autistic you were in your interaction with people. Surprisingly, despite constant propaganda telling them to race-mix, the innate urge against it is so strong that 90-95% of women date within their race, and if they do race-mix, you better know it’s a rich white male or at least a ripped black gangster with a BBC. It’s not a skinny, manlet happa. She can find a white manlet if that’s her thing.” He proclaims “Blackpilled Again!” as he descends back into hell.
Part II
I am going to justify the obvious: female physical preferences are dysgenic. You already knew this if your IQ is above 120, but nowhere have I seen this formally argued for. In fact, it is rather common for people on the forums I frequent to imply that selecting for muscles is eugenic. They are quite wrong. “By the age of 19, 80% of US males and 75% of women have lost their virginity, and 87% of college students have had sex. But this number appears to be much lower at elite colleges. Only 56% of Princeton undergraduates have had intercourse. At Harvard 59% of the undergraduates are non-virgins, and at MIT, only a slight majority, 51%, have had intercourse. Further, only 65% of MIT graduate students have had sex.” (17)
It has been clear since at least The Bell Curve that IQ is being selected against. The proposed causes for this phenomenon range from welfare checks to those with higher IQs acting more responsible. One overlooked cause is female mate preference: women care greatly about their partners physicality, and their physical preferences select against IQ and Need-For-Cognition (NFC). This is not to some great benefit in some other trait: outside of their preferences against the obese and the horrifically diseased, female physical preferences are stuck in 9000 BC. In other words, the trait they are selecting for is strength. Health is neutral or selected against, and intellect is certainly selected against due to the outdated, innate preferences of women.
In order to analyze the dysgenic effect of female physical preference, it would be helpful to know what exactly they are selecting for. One study indicates that above height and facial attractiveness, women appreciate large muscles (16). However, it is not necessary to derive a predictive model for physical attractiveness in men which assigns a percent of the variance explained to each trait, nor is it likely possible considering the current level of data. The reason why it is not necessary is because studies have already shown what factors women find physically attractive, and each can be shown to be dysgenic to some extent. These other factors are height and facial masculinity.
Having large muscles negatively correlated with intelligence and intellectual attitude. Having a higher NFC, or tendency to think deeply, strongly predicts spending less time in the gym compared to those with low to average NFC (8). Furthermore, time spent in the gym negatively correlates moderately with IQ (r ~ -0.30). Although some research indicates that muscle strength is linked to a longer life, this is likely flawed data due to obese subjects and the fact that most of it is collected on elderly people. Of course stronger elderly people are healthier, but why are they stronger? It is because they have not degenerated as much due to their genes. Even if it were to be accepted that strength correlates with health, the net effect of selecting for strong over nonobese, average men is still dysgenic because it selects against IQ. Furthermore, high IQ men that are selected against due to outdated female preferences are likely as healthy or healthier than resistance trainers because IQ is associated with longevity in itself (19), despite the fact that men with higher IQs exercise less. Next is the face. Facial attractiveness in men is associated with “perceived health” but not with real measures of health and virility (20). It is largely thought that women are attracted to faces of higher Testosterone men -- there is a negative or neutral correlation of testosterone with immune response (12,14). Testosterone is also negatively associated with longevity (21). Finally, there is no association between IQ and facial attractiveness on the genetic level according to twin data (11).
As for height: women like taller men and taller men are less healthy (18). A taller man in 9000 BC, however, is more likely to beat an equally healthy manlet in a fight. In 2020, the manlet will just pull a gun and the taller man will die.
As I previously wrote, physicality seems to explain more than half of the variance in male romantic success. Not only is physical attractiveness largely irrelevant to fitness in 2020, it is actually at least slightly unfit given its negative correlation with intelligence and need for cognition. Many healthy men are getting cheated out of children because in the eyes of women they are 4/10s, when in the reality of 2020 they are no less fit than an “attractive” man. Despite their face and their stature, they will probably live healthily to a ripe old age and they are likely to actually have a higher IQ than an “attractive” man. The solution is to enact what made Europe great from the beginning: enforced monogamy. Make average looking women settle for average looking men again. This model is both historically standard and has the benefit of not selecting against high IQ children like the fornication model of 2020 does.
Part III
I won’t say much on status and its dysgenic effects other than surveyed women say they actively prefer dumber guys than they could otherwise get. More specifically, when offered a choice between a 99th percentile IQ and a 90th percentile IQ man, they choose the latter (22). With other traits, such as kindness, they pick 99th percentile: as much as they can get.
The reason for this is probably mostly found in anti-intelligence propaganda like the nonexistent archetype of the “nerd”. Regardless, the only thing that saves high IQ men is money, but they’re often old if they get enough of it at all, and end up with a settled down 30 year old fresh off the cock carousel. IQ goes down every year, and women are to blame, at least in part. They choose every day to reproduce with dumber men due to their superior physique or status instead of reproducing with otherwise average high IQ men. This effect is dysgenic and female preference should be disregarded insofar as is required to correct the direction of our evolution.
Sources: https://oligarchicalneoformalism.blogspot.com/2020/02/part-i-few-questions-are-as-important.html
TLDR: Read it lazy. Or at least read paragraph 10 :)
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2020.09.20 17:13 AceTheBot A person posted this to r/AskTeenGirls back in March

What do you think of this essay that estimates the factors involved in female mating preferences?
Part I
Few questions are as important as the following: what selection pressures are humans facing, and are they eugenic or dysgenic? In other words, are we evolving or devolving? Of central importance to this question is the practice of human reproduction: children are produced when a man fucks a woman. The genes that lead to fucking, therefore, are the genes that are being selected for. So what genes are these? Who gets laid?
It does not suffice to use anecdotes. Sure, they may be correct at the end of the day, but on the other hand they may not be. Therefore let us approach this topic scientifically; no dudebro philosophy about game and muscles and whatever else here. Besides, men are hardly unified on what they think their anecdotes signify: one hopeful man will say it’s all about game, while another pessimistic man will say it’s the face, yet another will say muscles, and another money, et cetera ad infinitum.
Let us phrase the question scientifically: what factors explain what proportion of that variance in male romantic success? This question implies that the club scene will not be analyzed. Women may choose differently for one night stands than they will for a reproductive partner, and most children are intended or at least with a monogamous partner in the age of birth control and abortion.
Looking into the scientific literature on this question is quite frustrating. Frankly, it’s quite bad and I have only been able to unearth a few studies that offer only hesitant, partial answers. Yet the available evidence does allow a few important facts to be clear, and with sufficient reasoning other facts can be inferred. Probably the best study relevant to the question was one published in 2017 that asked women to rate men based on a photo and one of three descriptions of three traits each that were intended to be highly desirable, desirable, or less desirable. The women gave ratings for physical attractiveness, behavioral desirability, and dating desirability. It was found using multiple linear regression analysis (MLR) that sr2 was 0.55 for physical attractiveness and .20 for personality rating on the average. This means those two ratings alone accounted for 75% of the variance in dating desirability scores and that physical attractiveness accounted for 55% of that variance by itself, or in other words it accounted for 55% of the variance after factoring out its covariance with personality score and so on for the personality score. One interesting thing to note is that they also asked the same thing to the mothers of the women and found that physical attractiveness accounts for about 33% of the variance and personality accounts for about 40% of the variance in regards to how much the mothers desires their daughter to date the given man. This means that in traditional days, it can be inferred, at least according to this study, that reputation mattered much more than looks.
And let me comment on the word I used in the last sentence: reputation. That is precisely what the women and mothers were rating. This is, in essence, a component of social status and not direct behavior or “game” ability, and this is further evidenced by the fact that the men were described using reputation words - “trustworthy”, not “interesting”, mature, not “easy to get along with”. They were described in ways that their community as a whole would think of them, not in ways that are specifically meant to bring to mind the way the man will treat the woman. So being generous, we can say that direct behavior might account for the missing variance and maybe a small part of the reputation variance, meaning it might be as high as 30% but no higher. On the other hand, it could still be conceivably as low as 0% based on this single study.
What do other studies show? One type of attraction study seems to indicate that attraction has little to do with direct behavior, or in other words the personality that the woman experiences. These studies typically simulate dating in a controlled fashion and ask the participants the degree to which they would like to go on another date with whoever they met. One study published in 1966 found “The correlation between liking of the date and evaluation of the date's physical attractiveness is .78 for male subjects and .69 for female subjects” (4). The subjects’ looks were rapidly rated by four random raters, meaning that it is unlikely that the ratings were inflated or deflated by personality. R2 for women, then, is about 0.5, which means that about 50% of the variance in female desire to see the male date again can be explained by the male’s physicality alone. This is obviously in line with the findings of the 2017 study, meaning that this result has been replicated half a century later. The 1966 study also gave personality tests to the subjects: masculinity correlated with the female wanting to see the male again at r = 0.12, extroversion at r = 0.10, good manners at r = .12, and “self-acceptance” (confidence) at r = .14. In other words, variance in being a super-wacky extrovert, having good manners, acting “masculine”, and being confident account for essentially none of the variance in if the male is wanted by the female again. The study concluded that out of the metrics they scored, only physical attraviness predicted the women wanting to see the men again.
Another study from 2009 essentially replicated this finding (6). This study had the participants fill out tests to measure personality and then had them participate in a speed-dating event where each male met ten females and vice versa. Physique was pre-rated by each researcher with high reliability (intercorrelation = 0.86). These pre-rated scores correlated at r=0.88 (r2 = 0.77) with the extent to which the female wanted to see the male again after the date. Men were allowed to seduce, display IDGAF and abundance attitudes, and generally mog for five minutes. Still, “interest in sport activities” (r = 0.48, r2 = 0.23), which probably covaries with the physique pre-ratings (as I will explain), and physique were the only predictive variables. Big 5 traits correlated at most at r = 0.26 but were not statistically significant (p < 5%). One interesting thing to note is that the sample consisted of college students with an average age of 19; Interest in sportsball might have functioned as a serious reflector of status since women generally cannot gauge status based on jobs and money when it comes to 19 year old college students yet. Fresh out of high school, they were likely still influenced by propaganda that designates the sportsball players as high-status and popular.
As far as I have found, these studies are the cream of the crop when it comes to those which attempt to estimate the factors that predict male romantic success. Despite the field being quite barren, conclusions can still be drawn considering all of the studies have more than adequate statistical power and each agrees with one another. Physical attractiveness matters the most: each study estimates its predictive power at at least half the variance. Status matters, but less than physique. Direct behavior, or personality, explains little to none of the variance. This does not mean that a 5/10 trainwreck, anxious autist couldn’t get more girls if he somehow improved his social skills, but it indicates that game doesn’t work or is at least extremely rare within the samples. It does show that more natural differences in personality traits, ranging from extroversion to confidence, matter very little. Given that much of game consists of essentially telling guys to be more extroverted and confident, these studies suggest that that aspect of game is bogus.
Based on these results, I predict that if I were to run my ideal experiment and find how much variance physique, direct behavior, and status explain, I would see about 60%, 5%, and 35% respectively. Let us then apply the knowledge of this educated estimation on a number of hypothetical cases. Case 1: a man who is 5’8” with a 50th percentile face and a typical, skinnyfat body shape. He is somewhat introverted and has a few close friends, and is in university. He comes to me for my sage-like wisdom and asks, “O, wise one, what shall acquireth me the womb?” There are only two questions to ask him: “are you autistic?” and “do you have social anxiety?”. When he answers no to both, I give him my knowledge: “do thou worketh out and build thy muscle, and go on and gaineth thou status. Then the womb shall be for thee.” If his direct behavior is not an absolute trainwreck, if he is not a terrible autist, then no amount of confidence-game will help him. He already has sufficient confidence: if he didn’t, the variance in direct behavior would explain more of the variance in romantic success because a large number of men would be capitalizing off this easy “biohack”. Women don’t like him because he’s an overall 4/10 physically and has no status because he has few friends, no fame, and no money. Approaching 100 random women will most likely net 99 to 100 rejections by his looks alone. The ugly girls that go on one date with him will friendzone him when they find out he doesn’t like sports and he has 2 friends. And so Case 1 goes on, gets ripped, and makes some more friends and some notoriety and finally he finds a woman. Case 2: a 6’2” man who has been working out for a year and has something to show for it, with an average to above average face, approaches and says, trembling, “What do I do? I have been following the advice you gave Case 1 for a year and still I have no girlfriend.” I ask my questions, and he responds, “I-I have a lot of confidence issues and a lot of social anxiety with women.” He makes no eye contact and his voice is monotone. I tell him, “you are the one who is so rare that you do not even register in the variance in direct behavior in my studies of wisdom. You need to cure your autism, learn to make eye contact and stop turning off girls who would otherwise be into you by physically trembling when you approach them.” Later that night, he bangs 3 girls from the club because he took Xannies to control his shaking and MDMA to cure his autism. Finally, case three: the ghost of Elliot Rodger comes up from hell and asks me why no girls wanted him. I say to him: “You are physically a 4/10. You are an extreme malet who is half asian AND you have no status and who knows how autistic you were in your interaction with people. Surprisingly, despite constant propaganda telling them to race-mix, the innate urge against it is so strong that 90-95% of women date within their race, and if they do race-mix, you better know it’s a rich white male or at least a ripped black gangster with a BBC. It’s not a skinny, manlet happa. She can find a white manlet if that’s her thing.” He proclaims “Blackpilled Again!” as he descends back into hell.
Part II
I am going to justify the obvious: female physical preferences are dysgenic. You already knew this if your IQ is above 120, but nowhere have I seen this formally argued for. In fact, it is rather common for people on the forums I frequent to imply that selecting for muscles is eugenic. They are quite wrong. “By the age of 19, 80% of US males and 75% of women have lost their virginity, and 87% of college students have had sex. But this number appears to be much lower at elite colleges. Only 56% of Princeton undergraduates have had intercourse. At Harvard 59% of the undergraduates are non-virgins, and at MIT, only a slight majority, 51%, have had intercourse. Further, only 65% of MIT graduate students have had sex.” (17)
It has been clear since at least The Bell Curve that IQ is being selected against. The proposed causes for this phenomenon range from welfare checks to those with higher IQs acting more responsible. One overlooked cause is female mate preference: women care greatly about their partners physicality, and their physical preferences select against IQ and Need-For-Cognition (NFC). This is not to some great benefit in some other trait: outside of their preferences against the obese and the horrifically diseased, female physical preferences are stuck in 9000 BC. In other words, the trait they are selecting for is strength. Health is neutral or selected against, and intellect is certainly selected against due to the outdated, innate preferences of women.
In order to analyze the dysgenic effect of female physical preference, it would be helpful to know what exactly they are selecting for. One study indicates that above height and facial attractiveness, women appreciate large muscles (16). However, it is not necessary to derive a predictive model for physical attractiveness in men which assigns a percent of the variance explained to each trait, nor is it likely possible considering the current level of data. The reason why it is not necessary is because studies have already shown what factors women find physically attractive, and each can be shown to be dysgenic to some extent. These other factors are height and facial masculinity.
Having large muscles negatively correlated with intelligence and intellectual attitude. Having a higher NFC, or tendency to think deeply, strongly predicts spending less time in the gym compared to those with low to average NFC (8). Furthermore, time spent in the gym negatively correlates moderately with IQ (r ~ -0.30). Although some research indicates that muscle strength is linked to a longer life, this is likely flawed data due to obese subjects and the fact that most of it is collected on elderly people. Of course stronger elderly people are healthier, but why are they stronger? It is because they have not degenerated as much due to their genes. Even if it were to be accepted that strength correlates with health, the net effect of selecting for strong over nonobese, average men is still dysgenic because it selects against IQ. Furthermore, high IQ men that are selected against due to outdated female preferences are likely as healthy or healthier than resistance trainers because IQ is associated with longevity in itself (19), despite the fact that men with higher IQs exercise less. Next is the face. Facial attractiveness in men is associated with “perceived health” but not with real measures of health and virility (20). It is largely thought that women are attracted to faces of higher Testosterone men -- there is a negative or neutral correlation of testosterone with immune response (12,14). Testosterone is also negatively associated with longevity (21). Finally, there is no association between IQ and facial attractiveness on the genetic level according to twin data (11).
As for height: women like taller men and taller men are less healthy (18). A taller man in 9000 BC, however, is more likely to beat an equally healthy manlet in a fight. In 2020, the manlet will just pull a gun and the taller man will die.
As I previously wrote, physicality seems to explain more than half of the variance in male romantic success. Not only is physical attractiveness largely irrelevant to fitness in 2020, it is actually at least slightly unfit given its negative correlation with intelligence and need for cognition. Many healthy men are getting cheated out of children because in the eyes of women they are 4/10s, when in the reality of 2020 they are no less fit than an “attractive” man. Despite their face and their stature, they will probably live healthily to a ripe old age and they are likely to actually have a higher IQ than an “attractive” man. The solution is to enact what made Europe great from the beginning: enforced monogamy. Make average looking women settle for average looking men again. This model is both historically standard and has the benefit of not selecting against high IQ children like the fornication model of 2020 does.
Part III
I won’t say much on status and its dysgenic effects other than surveyed women say they actively prefer dumber guys than they could otherwise get. More specifically, when offered a choice between a 99th percentile IQ and a 90th percentile IQ man, they choose the latter (22). With other traits, such as kindness, they pick 99th percentile: as much as they can get.
The reason for this is probably mostly found in anti-intelligence propaganda like the nonexistent archetype of the “nerd”. Regardless, the only thing that saves high IQ men is money, but they’re often old if they get enough of it at all, and end up with a settled down 30 year old fresh off the cock carousel. IQ goes down every year, and women are to blame, at least in part. They choose every day to reproduce with dumber men due to their superior physique or status instead of reproducing with otherwise average high IQ men. This effect is dysgenic and female preference should be disregarded insofar as is required to correct the direction of our evolution.
Sources: https://oligarchicalneoformalism.blogspot.com/2020/02/part-i-few-questions-are-as-important.html
TLDR: Read it lazy. Or at least read paragraph 10 :)
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2020.09.20 16:52 LarryBisceglia Thoughts on 50-somethings and OLD

Hi all. I'm a newly single 53M after 23 years of marriage. I was pretty horrible at dating back in the day, so you can imagine how I feel about it now. At the moment I don't have many opportunities to get out and about to meet people, so online is where I'm starting. I've been poking around a couple on-line dating sites with practically zero results. I'm no model, but not horrible to look at, and I've tried to create an interesting profile. I don't know what the guys look like, but so many of the ladies seem the same.
It is as though on-line dating is filled with kayaking nurses who love country music and are as comfortable sipping champagne in heels and a black dress as they are drinking beer in jeans and a sweatshirt sitting around a fire pit. And half the usernames are variations on "love to laugh."
So how do you stand out?
I'm curious, by the way, as to what people think is an appropriate age range for a 50-something to search. I've been looking at 40-59. Too broad?
For the ladies out there, what could someone say to you that would prompt you to respond?
I have had very, very few responses to the messages I send. I try to be polite, and focus on some kind of shared interest, rather than say things like "dam gurl u hot!" or send unwanted nudes. I do occasionally say things like "you have a warm smile" or "you have lovely eyes" if I feel that's the case. Is that good? Bad? Cringe worthy?
In my mind, I see every cute girl I try to talk to laughing at me as soon as I turn my back. It's junior high all over again.
Argh! Help!
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2020.09.20 04:50 MaryJaneIceLilElly83 New

Starting to believe I have Medium capabilities and powers for the first time tonight
I suppose this is an introduction post for me! Since I am brand spanking new!! Lol thank you very much for having me also!!
So I will get straight to the point I went out on a date with a very lovely and very chivalrous gentleman this evening we actually got home not in the evening.
To say the least it was far closer to the early morning LOL probably about two if not three or so in the morning to be exact, we started down my local street just gone down pretty much every day for my entire life I know the streets very well I saw it I can only describe as figures that look like the head on overly baggy street clothes on them ( well just wearing them nothing out of the ordinary at all!) the only thing out of the ordinary at all about them was they appear to me made or even sew-in together with shadows !!! Literal shadows cause it was VERY. Obviously black as the night ebony sky!, however the material was quite obviously sheer and see through !
The cloths had no real detail to them all but dual, causal , average .... maybe even sporty? Or Athletic ? ........... some I would see for only a second if not two and they moved SERIOUSLY FAST!!! Well and yet they kind of didn’t it was almost as though they were moving quite obviously beyond the speed of light but the appearance they gave in the room I was seeing them in looked as though they were casually walking either of the sidewalk or down it or down a city sidewalk for all I knew!? At a very casual leisurely pace was what the man surely of them were doing and those were the ones that I saw the most stuff they were a lot of them they only showed up in ones or twos and they usually showed up near trees would appear for maybe one or two seconds and then they would go away, there were a few that showed up in the middle of the street, That we’re obviously out jogging getting exercise some of it felt like I was watching I’m not home videos but like pre-recorded videos of a fairly good Lee populated area maybe sort of like how the Truman show was?
None of them had any defining details and stood out above any of the rest they all are pretty much the same and after probably about 10 minutes or so of watching them appear in various different places ice rink to realize they were not paying attention to me they were not looking at me so, when I noticed I was not being paid attention to I did feel a bit more but ease but not entirely!
Lmao To be very blunt about it my skin is still goosebumps and my hair is still on its hands I’m not even looking at it and I can tell that lol!!
But I do not feel as though I reacted this way because I felt is the way it was in danger.
I feel is though I reacted this way because it is a part of my brain that is opening up yet more channels two parts of my powers that I am struggling to be made aware of which I was told by my elders that this would occur as I grew more and allowed myself to grow more.
I was told never to doubt divisions that I saw whether they be from the Fay, spirits of any kind, Astro, elemental probably a lot of things I am not even remotely aware of because there’s too damn much out there LOL. And I cannot remember but I think I was also told to not show fear or if I did have fear to at least control it as much as possible and to hold on to your spirit guides when you feel afraid for their the ones that will help guide you and keep you safe and guide you back to the light!!🌞💫
Being a newbie most everything in my brain it has to do with other rooms I cannot say that I know for sure what I saw was what I think it was and of course if I was to talk to my very very conservative mother who is also very Christian upstairs she’s of course tell me that it was all in my head??!!!
I cannot in good conscience tell myself that or believe it🤐😱🤭 I might not know what it was that I saw I am personally journaling this down myself as “shadow figures “I am sure somebody here will tell me that they go buy some thing else I am most certainly sure somebody will cause there’s always somebody out there that’s smarter than me LOL until I find a book about it and read it myself lmao !!! Lol yes I am a bratty lil B🤬!
Smartbutt lol but I think my nerdy geeky brain tryin lamely to calm itself the hell down also lol I know deep in my heart my god that this was the first experience for myself as in awakening medium, starting her journey into her power or abilities I guess might be a better term to use.
And I know that I am shaky as a leaf and have goosebumps and my hair standing on age is because despite what anybody else thinks or tails me til the day I die I know that this is my first interactive well maybe not interactive but at least View into a realm of the paranormal ! I know what I saw was paranormal activity of some degree and I don’t even know that much about paranormal stuff and I didn’t feel like I had to my gut told me that it was going on at least that basic knowledge was made clear to me by not a spirit guide per se but just my inner being told me that! Do you even though I panicked pretty decently in the car with my very very decent and chivalrous brave Viking boy toy!.... mean Date lol... No I was very very glad I had somebody with me at all honesty to help me through the experience it didn’t even last that long but because it just happened out of nowhere it was frightening there is just no other word that I can think of other than scary and frightening because it was paranormal and otherworldly and I just knew that even the fact that I knew that information without a shadow of a doubt was pregame creepy to be honest ,honest!
Lol so here ya GO LOL ya gets a newly beginning awakening medium , named Sarah DeRosier, from Columbia Missouri in your field of people now! And I am a huge jumpy scared cat of things that go bump in the night !
Yet I also ironically ADORE Dark Fantasy vs Light Fantasy! Have always seen my self on days in some ways a Goth Chic, I love dark wave music , and trance ! I am played probably more hours of vampire the masquerade and werewolf the apocalypse then it’s probably healthy for a young person that was in my early 20s I spent more time playing those games that I went out to bars and drink which was probably a better choice for me in the long run anyway!
When it comes to scary movies I am more into the older stuff black-and-white 40s 50s stuff like that or things that have to do with history! I think it’s grizzly and it’s gruesome as Jack the ripper is it has absolutely fascinated me to know and since I was literally probably 14 years old which is pretty morbid for teen. So I really got into movies such as her from hell and we really really enjoyed loving Penny dreadful when it came out because of how it was all about classic horror stories like Frankenstein and all my lovely favorites!
I’m really into monster movies and creature from the Black Lagoon is my all-time favorite I actually think the Blair witch Project is hilarious and actually it’s fairly freaking creepy at times too! I mean let’s be fair the camera is going everywhere and it’s mostly like a terrible carnival ride that you feel like you’re just gonna puke everywhere from oneside finally stops. But for independent film of the 90s with what they did the storyline was actually well done the acting was horrible it might’ve been a little overdone at times but horror movies what are you expect?
I guess when it comes down to it what I like about scary movies when I actually do watch them and I’m very very choosy about the ones I watch specially nowadays because if I wanna watch something to be scared then I’ll watch it to be scared if there’s going involved I’m fine with that!
What I am not however fine with is this obsession we have found yourselves in as a nation with Goreporn! Films now! I have never seen one of these films that people classify as this I’ve heard people tell me about them I will not ever ever see one I refused you I work in Medicine I don’t actually work in Medicine right now that’s a lie I intend on working in Medicine I am planning on getting my CNA hopefully by the first of next year and intend on going to classes for pre-nursing!
So I am not planning on being a stranger to blood guts and gore but this lets just make it ALLL. About the GORE OR ALL THE TORTURING thing goes on in movies it’s just gross and not showing a good side of humanity to me! ..... well that is if we are even willing to claim any sense of humanity in the new found genres of GOREPORN AND TORTUREPORN too me personally their none to had or found! That is the work of evil enties ONLY! ( or should be ! Spiritually and realistically from my Humble Young Female Pagan/Wiccan point of view) but it’s only mine alone I tilt hope I do not offend , for I certainly don’t wish it too !!!
Just when I hear about , I guess Saw , and Hostel come first off to mind! Having not visual and physically seen them, but from my minds eye have heard the Synopsis’s.
There utterly NO scare or horror factors to these films at all! It’s basically showing human being at their worst doing their worst ! In as much greasily gore filled detail as they can cram into two to three hours they can! That’s pretty much it! Or sit back and let see how long it take you!? Or your date to puke up that $14 popcorn SHE JUST HADDDDDD TO GET TONIGHT !
No for me I like Horror! Monster! Thrillers! Old and some new as well I don’t judge all just some!!! I actually loved the hell out of the IT movie lol I own part 2 and still have yet to find bloody time sit down an see it yet !
Now you might find it odd I guess I wrap up with my darknesses of self lol and of all things opinions on horror films of yester year and present is! The reason, mentioned so was for mostly two reasons was all!
  1. Lol what I do end up reading or watching as far genre of Horror is concerned is the same most people have for something like getting on a rollercoaster, or getting in an airplane and going sky diving ! Of bungee rope jumping ! I get a kick of of having lol short bursts of adderaline rushes every now and again!! Lol not to mention, if ya have a man, or women lol yes lgbtq ppl I am gonna say you could be here too lol I mean I am a bisexual 36 myself here! Lol ! But ANYWAY!! Lol wrapping one or both ur hand about your partner , during a scary movie of any sort! Let’s them know they are loved, cared for!, safe and protected as long YOU!!! THEIR LOVER ARE THERE!!! Lol
And let me real again ppl if ANY OF US! Young , old,single or married lol whatever want some kissy time, alone time with that movie date! That’s watching Netflix with ya in the lounge! Or your gal ya just went steady with, that ya went to take to the drive to see in FULL COLOR THE BLOOB!!! In your dads priceless reliable cherry apple red corvette , lol that gonna Bomp on down the road to Blueberry Hill for kiss and steam of Windows after the film of course!
Lol well either gen either time period or gotta whee you wanted to get with whom you were with ! So in conclusion of all that I watch Horror films for their cinemagaphic enjoyment , to be scared lol for adrenaline Rush fun purposes lol, and having fun, Romantic times with your loved one or ones lol.
But if all about me a dick and touturiing someone, or all about gore and gots ans grossness and that’s it! That’s a genre but saying or horror!? Is absurd and insulting !! Personally!
I am fairly sure some you could care less about all this! I simply take note of how easily I scare , at movies , or haunted houses things like this..... mentally in my mind. Right now , because I will have to face a very even more reality is now starting for me! All the thing lol at least by faith! Lol I knew to myself personally ! To be real and true are! But now that world is letting me see it ! Observe it! And I know VERY WELL INDEED ! I am sure too probably find , I would assume a type of doorway next!?
Or if not a doorway?! That exists by its self maybe find a way to draw one up and find a way to enter SAFELY ( and I would think most importantly also be able to exit as well and go ALWAYS have access to these while in the realm of the Medium! Or paranormal whatever it be lol sorry,.....)
Cause my elder taught me away to enter into the Astral and I Think possibly Elemental realms this way! For the purposes of meeting / greeting and being taught by my own personal Spirit Guides! He also made the VERY IMPORTANT ENDING STATEMENT OF THAT LESSON BEING!
“do not stay in their world, very long it can do damage to your body and more importantly , your mind can be damaged by being HERE TOO LONG!!!” And I am going to make a safe guess that this .... rule should just be followed for any inner , realms, Multi-verse, dimensional travel , lol or Tardis, Enterprise Star Fleet Ship, or other worldly travel ships AT ALL!!! PERIOD!! AND YEAH!!! I DO THINK THEY IS EXISTS😱🤗🛸🚀🛰🛡⚔️🔮🔱
Stay in or around places human beings or well I guess for us specifically I would think! Specifically Living human beings! Should not stay in , or be close or near by too! For too very long!! Just not Healthy for us! In a long term use anyway! I mean all of we can use and learn from and grow from! But this is not our home! And OFTEN WE CAN OFTEN BE ANYTHING! PREY, VICTEM, .... LIKE I SAID ANYTHING COULD BE THERE !!! GOOD OR BAD!!! Which is why I am here looking for new friends guidance !!! Of any type !!! Books, other groups!
I am just scared and afraid right now! But also excited as well! And am trying lol as best I can lol not sure how it’s goin to be honest.......... lmao But I am tryin VERY, VERY, VERY HARD TO BE BRAVE OF THIS NEW DARK (Shadowy) Unknown!
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2020.09.20 03:37 Ranting-Pacifist “If I had a nickel for every time I did the work in a group project but didn’t get credit I’d have 2 nickels which isn’t a lot but it’s weird it happened twice”

Talking to a friend and these memories popped into my head.
6th grade:
We had a group project to make a poster to represent our classroom because all the English classes were given districts from the hunger games. My class hit the jack pot and got district 12 so we had plenty of material to work with. We were put in groups of 3 so it was me, my friend ( Cindy) and some random girl (Hannah). Me and Cindy did all the work while Hannah sat there and stared into space. We tried to ask her to do things or her opinion on our poster so far but she did nothing and would say it looked great but not even look. This was a week long project of research and then making poster and she didn’t do a single thing. Me and Cindy were tired of people always doing this to us so we told the teacher. I come to school Monday after being absent Friday and the teacher called me and pointed to her computer screen to show me I got a 0 on the project while Cindy and Hannah got full credit. Why did I not get credit? I was absent Friday even though we had finished before hand. I was really pissed but couldn’t do anything because I was a kid.
8th grade:
Another week long project. We had to do research on a famous person and make a power point on them. I got paired up with a girl I’ll call gabby. Me and gabby were really close to the teachers desk so I’m surprised the teacher didn’t notice instead of researching gabby was facing the opposite direction of her laptop and flirting with the boy behind her the entire week. Instead of telling the teacher I told gabby to finish the last slide and to present it or that would mean I did everything so I’d take credit for everything, which was a mistake. The last slide was finished but instead of bullet points she put a paragraph but she did a good job at reading the paper I wrote that explained what the bullet points where about and I finally got the simple job which was clicking the mouse to change slides and animate things. I was so happy at the end of the class because we had the best looking presentation and the most informative one so I was expecting a 100. The teacher called me to her desk and told me I was getting a 50 because she didn’t think I did anything (all because gabby presented instead of me not based on the fact I was the only one on my laptop while gabby didn’t even open hers 2/5 days) I was flabbergasted we were by her desk how did she not see me? Plus I made straight As and my record showed I have been reading on a college level since 7th and high school for even longer(big accomplishment since I’m dyslexic) and this teacher even told me I should switch to the advanced English class. I told her what I told gabby so that’s why she presented the it while I clicked the slides. Still didn’t work tho. It’s ok because she was still a pretty chill teacher who kinda helped set me up with the guy I’m still dating, plus not like a 50 hurt me that much still frustrating tho.
Also any advice on how to call out someone who didn’t do work that won’t make me get a bad grade?
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2020.09.20 01:11 Peace_Love10 Scared but I did it!!! 😭😩🙏🏾😌💕🤞🏾

Update 9/20/2020 Now so far, on my tinder profile, people have read that I have herpes; therefore, I have been getting fewer likes, but that’s okay. The good thing is I paid for tinder sometime ago, so I’m able to see who likes me, and there were quite a few people I’d say at least 50 to 100. At first, I talked/matched 13 people, but three had left once they asked me what Hsv was. So now there’s 12 but only seven people talking to me (if that makes sense) so far, it’s actually been really good. One guy on there said he didn’t see a problem with talking and dating someone with herpes, so I was pretty happy about that.. but I wanted to share the big news that made me happy but also relieved..one of the seven people that I’m talking to stated he had herpes as well now were just discussing about what’s it like to have the condition and the pros and cons. Even though I knew there would be people with herpes on tinder, it’s just nice that someone reads your profile and be like, hey; she has it too; I’m not alone type thing. Plus, this gives people an inspiration to get out there and put it on their profile.
But, so far, so good 🤞🏾🤞🏾🤞🏾 I hope me explaining this helps you guys a bit and maybe motivates you. I apologize if I was rambling. I wanted to make sure to give you guys feedback as soon as possible!!! Please don’t give up because I know I did for a second, but something told me to get my ass out there and face the outcomes. I wish you guys the best take care💕🙏🏾😌 WE GOT THIS.
P.S. I was actually thinking last night eventually, in my opinion, I feel like Tinder, and other dating apps will probably give people an option checkbox to state they're diagnoses on their profiles, kind of like the app Positive Singles.
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2020.09.19 23:31 OrganizationFickle I was doing some reading about break ups and came across a gem of a comment which I thought I'd share with anyone on this fine Saturday evening. It made me feel better, so maybe it will help you too.

Edit: holy shit guys, thank you all for the awards!! I was not expecting that. I myself am going through it. This too shall pass. Stay strong people. You got this.

Here it is:
"So, for all you newbies who ask the questions, "Will the hurting ever stop," or "Will my ex come back," or "Why did he/she do this," this is how it typically goes down.
You two break up--doesn't matter who does it. You immediately panic and begin chasing, begging, pleading, harrassing, phoning, e-mailing, IMing, stalking (okay not all of them, just pick whichever one you did). Most of us will likely do some things during this stage that will make you cringe when you think back on it, say after about 3 months.
You lose weight. You neglect yourself, your house, your job (how many hours do we all log on this site while we are at work?). You drive your friends and family crazy talking about the break up. You cry at the drop of a dime. You can't even comprehend that your life might not again include that "special person." You begin putting them on a pedestal, forgetting all of the nagging things about them that used to drive you crazy. In your mind, they have become omnipotent, all encompasing, all everything.
You convince yourself that you are a loser who just screwed up a relationship with "the best person in the world." You KNOW without a doubt that you will never EVER love like that again. You know no one else will come along who even comes close to being as marvelous as your ex (excuse me while I chuckle to myself here). You wear a sad face for the world to see (you should see my work ID taken 2 days after my breakup, it's just pitiful).
They (the ex's) remain steadfast in their denial to get back together. Many of them leapfrog into new relationships, immediately being exclusive with a new person. For those that do leapfrog, they appear to just "replace" you with a new model. All of the things you two used to do, they now do with someone else. Bowling, cuddling watching television, motorcycle riding, antiquing. Whatever you two did, likely they will just begin doing those things with someone new.
You hear about them and their new life. You are desperate for any crumbs of news about their life. Many of us make things worse here by trying to use manipulation to get them back--yet they stay away from us like we are the plague.
For those of us who do still have contact with our ex's we begin selling ourselves short. Doing stupid things like allowing them access to our bodies and then wanting to strangle them afterward when they remind us that "Sex does not imply hope."
You, in further panic mode, begin frantically searching the internet using phrases such as "break ups," "divorce stopper," whatever. You stumble upon this site, pay your money because your curious and lo and behold, you find all of us folks in various stages of this whole breakup bullsh*t.
You voraciously read the posts. You search for news of those who "got their mates back." You're on the site constantly. You'll read the books and think "Ah I can do this. I can get this person back." You begin your "no contact" and for some of us, this will get a reaction from our ex's. For the rest, no contact is and will continue to be what you'll get and receive.
Time goes by. You'll do some stupid things. You'll call your ex when you shouldn't. You'll call when you've had to much to drink. You'll call even after 50 people on this site tell you not to. You'll show up on their doorstep, hating yourself all the time. Then you'll come back to this site and ask everyone to tell you why you were so stupid as to do whatever it was you did.
Then you'll get serious about no contact. It'll hurt, but you try to stick to it. Here's the turning point for most. For those folks who have contact with their ex's, your no contact will either bring them sniffing curiously around or they'll be somewhere high fiving their friends thanking the God's that you haven't called.
Now's the tough time. Nothing but time works. Everday the ache in your heart grows a little less. It's only nanobits that it dies down by. But everyday it will get slowly better. You'll have setbacks. You'll run into your ex accidently. You'll run into mutual friends who'll tell you something about your ex that'll have you high-tailing it home for a good cry. You'll see your ex with their new "friend." You'll receive a phone call or an e-mail from your ex who "doesn't want to be in a relationship but still wants to be friends (with benefits if you allow).
Here's another important part. You need to truly sit down and truthfully look back at the relationship and understand what you did to help with it's demise. If you miss this part, you go through all the suffering for nothing because Buddy, you'll be back here again. This site is to teach you about you. To teach you how to be a better partner, a better person. Missing that lesson is detrimental to the whole process. It's the REASON that you're going through this. God (or whatever your higher power is) needed you to learn something about YOU. Don't miss out on the lesson.
Then one day you'll smile because you didn't immediately check your answering machine when you came in. And one day you'll decide to clean the muck that has accumulated in your house. And one day you'll go outside and admit to the universe that you surrender what control you thought you had.
And one day you'll decide to date again. And one day you'll go out on your first date and it will likely be a disaster. And then you'll either force yourself to continue dating or you'll decide that you aren't ready to date but you are ready to be out amongst people again. And many of you will have some quick reconcillations with your ex's. Many of us won't. But one day, it won't matter as much. Because time will allow you to catch yourself going minutes and then hours without thinking of the ex. And you'll begin to be able to think of life possibly without that person and not dissolve into a puddle of nothingness because of the thought.
And for most of us, sadly, life will go on without that mate. That's the truth, amigos. Don't want to dash your hopes but probably less than 3% of the people on this site get back with their mates. Sobering isn't it? But, as the site instructs, you must accept this before you can truly begin to heal or draw your ex back to you. For the lucky (maybe unlucky one's depending on how much work it will take to keep a mate that has wandered back) who get back with their ex's, many will find that the paradise they envisioned isn't reality and what they once thought was gold has a certain tarnish to it now. But they stay and try and make it work because it's comfortable or, if they are really lucky, it's meant to be.
But for most of us. Life goes on. And one day you'll find yourself having a gut busting laugh over something totally stupid and you'll think to yourself "I am getting better." And finally (thank God) you'll have sex with some new and find that a) if it wasn't good, at least you did it or b) it was so much better than with your ex you wonder why you waited so long to get back out there. And you'll know you're one the road to recovery.
I guess what I'm trying to convey here is, while each situation is unique, the characteristics of most of our situations are the same. Most of us will go through at least something that I've written here. So, when someone tells you on this site that time will help you get through it, believe them. When they tell you that "trust me, it will get better and you will stop hurting eventually," believe them. And when they give you good advice that your head understands but your heart rejects, take a moment to think before you react.
Don't beat yourself up if you do something that you wished you hadn't (calling, contacting, etc) WE ALL DID AT ONE TIME OR ANOTHER. Be kind to yourself. Be forgiving of yourself. And most of all remember that being happily single is an alternative. Even if society is beating it into your head that you MUST have a mate, take some time to heal before going back out there. There are plenty of good people to love, but don't go back out there broken, jaded about love, etc. Accept realty. Experience the pain. Learn the lesson. Actively try to heal. Remember the person you were when you first met your ex and get that person back.
And the universe will take care of the rest."
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